Of course I wrote all the things you wish you could say but are afraid of hurting the other person, starting a fight or some deep rift. My husband deals with depression and I struggle not to be co dependent and try to make things better for him. My counselor says he has to fix his own problems but it's hard for me to watch especially since he won't go back to counseling or meds. It's hard some days for me not to get pulled into his negative vortex. I have a hard time focussing on one thing, I will read my ipad while watching a movie or show. Being in the present and facing emotional stuff is hard. I have friends and family in and near napa. I was raised there. So after waking up middle of night and checking fb no more sleep. Off to work a closing shift at shop. Everyone in napa is fine, some smashed stuff but fine.