This is difficult as both my parents are dead my mammy only a few years . But I do know a few years before my Mm died I did have major anger issues due to my childhood, it came from nowhere I just seemed to feel a lot of stuff and was recommended to talk to my Mam. Firstly my Mam to the day she died would tell everyone that what she did was just and well deserved and it made me the person I am today, that without it I would not be who I am . This infuriated my husband who was not emotionally and physically abused that it was laughed at and taken so lightly both by her and surprisingly enough by us..... We thought thats the way it was we were 7 kids who knew no different we loved her and were told by her she had given up her life for us and we all knew we owed her big time. I spoke to her gently and explained I forgave her which I do and to some degree understood as she was not well and not coping and my Dad was not good to her. I explained without going into any past stories that all I needed her to say was " that is was not right and she should not have done it or even Sorry for it, just Sorry would have done . My Mam went off on one and she was in her 80's and she blew up saying why did I alway have to start stuff and that I was alway moaning when there was nothing to moan about etc etc. That was that then... prehalps sitting old and too much time to think she simply could't accept the fact that she had damaged us she was very devote old school catholic and believed in judgment day and maybe she did not want to see the wrongdoing when she would in her mind have to face the consequences . It was all she could do to cope , who knows ; she had been brought up in a violent house had her ear drums burst by her dad and thought it was ok so how could she know better. I love and forgive her and miss her every day .