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landry comments on Lesson #32

richard landry

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My comments are about Journaling notes on Lesson #32 which asks for ideas about problems which create more stress and anxiety in my daily life. Here's how I see those problems.
The problem is ME; I have traits which cause stress & anxiety and I don't do much to reverse these traits.
Here are some of those traits.
1-Procrastination; 2- lack of feeling I can do the action; 3- high resistance to anything requiring much mental or physical effort; 4- thinking: "will doing 'X' really solve the problem?"; 5- believing my TMS symptoms are sufficient to prevent my action; 6- deep down, not really wanting to do what clearly needs to be done; 7- not wanting to commit to adhering to a routine; 8- I would prefer to do something I enjoy rather than doing the dreaded 'X', which I don't want to do; 9- blaming life for creating these adverse effects, and then feeling victimized by life; 10- because I am victimized Life owes me an easy solution requiring little or no effort on my part; 11- wanting ALL of the good changes to happen NOW not in 2 weeks or 6 months; 12- resenting the required patience during the interim of recovery; 13- I just must be lazy.
How do I prevent the above traits creating more stress & anxiety in my life? Generally, 1- I could chose to believe I can decide on priorities, i.e. what is most important now compared to what is most important in the future. 2- having the wisdom to choose which is best, present or future pleasure; 3- paying attention my emotional demands but not being enslaved to such demands; 4- trusting I have the wisdom to know & to do what is best in the moment; 5- Just DO IT.
 
Richard:

Although your post starts out in a voice of "frustration", it seems you answered your own question in the end: "Just do it". How about each morning writing out your day. Choose the things you don't really want to do. If there are many things, then cross a few off that can wait until another day. Then do one or two things you dislike and wait to see how good you feel. Just one or two things a day can make for a Happy Richard at night.

I know the feeling of wanting this to work right now. So do I. I'm still waiting. I know pretty much what the hold-up is, but I forge on with gratitude that I've 1) found the program and 2) found so many people that are willing to help. It's that feeling of support that keeps me going. I have times of no pain, but I still have anxiety issues that are not helping my TMS.

; 9- blaming life for creating these adverse effects, and then feeling victimized by life;


This would make a great journal entry in itself. Why do you blame "life". It simply happens to us, but we have control over our own actions only. So do you blame a person? Your parents? What happened after you were out on your own? This might help explain things if you do a free-write on this sentence alone. Find out why you are blaming life.

10- because I am victimized Life owes me an easy solution requiring little or no effort on my part;


This would make another excellent journal entry. And when you write these, don't think. Just write. Do it as fast as you can. I bet you'll make some good discoveries to yourself.

Hang in there. It DOES get better. And it DOES take time.

BG
 
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