I really wanted to start a new post on this topic, but the platform is sluggish and won’t let me. This thread touches on my topic. How does “allowing” work? Today I watched another Sam Miller video (the mindful gardener on YouTube), and I had a good revelation about pain/symptoms. It’s like what @freduccini said:
you start appreciating better the symptoms as the moment when your nervous system is cleaning the house.
Here’s what I got from Sam’s video:
My notes:
You have experienced multiple traumatic events in your past that never got processed to help you heal. You weren’t able to feel and release what happened. Instead, they were stored in the body and stuck there.
Your body knows when you are strong enough to take this completion process.
If you are having symptoms, your body thinks you can handle it and it tries to complete what never got completed in the past, a little at a time.
If you interfere in any way during this process (pain/symptoms) with fear, analysis—even soothing— you send your brain the message that it is dangerous. Then, your brain doesn’t complete the process and it will come back stronger the next time.
If you
allow—TOTALLY don’t react to the pain/symptoms, stay completely out of its way, it will complete the process.
The pain/symptom will subside when the process completes. And one more drop in your allostatic load is gone.
It will repeat until the load diminishes completely. And then you won’t have pain anymore on a regular basis.
Triggers are good because they bring on these healing episodes. They are good for you.
Conclusion: When you have pain, trust that you are healing. Don’t be afraid, just let it pass. This will repeat itself over and over until you are completely healed.
This allowing process is starting to make some sense for me, personally. But I imagine it’s controversial. I’m in the trial phase right now.