This question was submitted via our Ask a TMS Therapist program. To submit your question, click here. Question I grew up with an alcoholic mother who moved around through 8 different abusive marriages. My siblings and I would beg for her to stop, but she didn't listen and moved us around the country so we could watch her get beaten and abused, while I suffered. I have had a lifetime of TMS (ulcerative colitis, now severe back pain) and have the typical TMS personality traits. I have anger toward my mother and in fact use hate as the word that best describes my feeling toward her, even though I still try to be the good son. She has apologized, but I don't think I can ever forgive her. Now, as she grows old, she has reverted back to a needy child that cries for my attention and will guilt me to come and see her or call. My question is: Is it detrimental to my TMS recovery to be in contact with her, even though I can feel the anger and anxiety when I speak with her?