I spent a considerable amount of time today doing a big job because someone else dropped the ball. First mistake: over-responsible and goodist. Once it was finished, I let her know it was done and she immediately responded by pointing out some mistakes I made. Second mistake: reacting to “the criticism.” I literally felt my reaction to this in every spot on my body that has hurt from TMS! In a matter of seconds, I got VERY angry (how DARE she criticize what I did, when she was so irresponsible that I had to do her job), then I became immediately sad and felt like crying. During both of these emotional states, I felt lots of pain (sciatic, back, shoulders, neck, I don’t think I missed a single spot). Fortunately, it was time to leave work, so I had immediate time to reflect on all of this on the drive home and to get very clear on the fact that none of these feelings had anything to do with her. The pain I felt was from “being wrong” (again). As a child, I was wrong. It was not that I did wrong things. My very existence was wrong. It’s a long story, which you don’t need to hear, but trust me...wrongness was built into my very concept of myself. I thought I was past this, but it seems NOT. Sheesh...I’m almost 63. It’s about time I get over this nonsense. As someone here recently said, “intellectually,” I know I’m not wrong, but that inner child part apparently hasn’t gotten the message. So...now that I’ve had this revelation, how do I get the message across to this wounded kid that she’s OK? I do know this is progress, because even one month ago, I would have blamed all of my feelings on “her” and then stuffed all of it (anger not acceptable and no feeling sorry for myself or playing the martyr). Then I would have spent tomorrow in pain. I don’t think that will happen in this case, because I worked through it. I acknowledged the pain and “felt” it in the present, instead of storing it up. I'm very grateful for that, but I would surely like to know that I don’t have to “react” this way in the future. There must be a way to get the message to this “child part” that she’s not wrong? Has anyone had success in this? If so, how'd you do it?