I was just on the chat where I offered to share some info about Internal Family Systems and two people took me up on it (I won't say the names here just in case that's a bad idea). With luck, they may read this post but I am not sure how else to get in touch with them. My understanding only! Internal Family Systems (IFC) posits that when we experience trauma (anything we can't deal with at the time) a "part" of our psyche splits off and becomes what we might later refer to as the "inner child" or a critical voice who criticizes practically everything we do (there are many possibilities, these are just two). These internal parts of us have relationships with each other and profoundly affect our lives. They can be worked with and used to resolve inner conflicts. Also, many of the parts hold painful memories. On the discussion/book study just prior to the chat, we talked about a woman called Ellen who spent 9 years in therapy to work with painful memories she had little or no awareness of at first. Obviously most people don't have access, so I'm thinking IFC is a good self-help way of approaching the problem. If the two people on the chat want to email me, that'd be great. Or anyone else who is interested. Or you could post here, of course.