Ignore the pain vs feel the feeling

I believe both to be necessary but I am unable to understand them as separates. I have made tons of progress with TMS working in not giving the pain power. Ignoring. But the long time pain (groin/pelvis) has been difficult so I’ve found a great therapist I love. She’s a firm mind/body believer. We have started at the beginning and she feels that I don’t “feel” feelings. I intellectualize. The old emotional pain is trapped in the body. I need to feel the feelings. And, we feel in our bodies. Not our heads. This is new to me. I am to ignore the pain.... but feel in my body!?! I don’t get it. Help!!

 

Hi Un0wut2du. Here is an article which addresses exactly what you're asking:
http://www.tmswiki.org/ppd/TMS_Recovery_Program#Feel_Your_Feelings (TMS Recovery Program)

In all honesty, I had to read a couple of times before I _got_ it. The clips also provide a great practical example of what he's talking about.

 

I actually now understand what Alan is talking about here. And to think for decades I had no idea what this meant.... My confusion is over feeling them AND not caring. Thanks for the reminder. I'm going to go through that entire program again.

 

Hi Un0... (difficult name )

I have the same problem.
‘Confusion about feeling but not caring’
But maybe i am not confused but find it hard to do this... my understanding about this is :
Not having feelings about your feelings’
Does that make sense? so alowing yourself to feel whatever you feel and be Okay with it : both happy and sad feelings. Let all the feelings come without rejecting them with your interlectual thinking about them’

Maybe someone of the more experienced members can reply on this
Hope i get it. The hard part is alowing it all and be fine with it

 

Every emotion brought on changes in our body. When we angry our face turn red, we talk and breath louder and faster, we tensed up. When we're sad we feel tire and lazy, can't focus, no energy to do anything... When we feel our feelings we just let the feelings happen, just let those changes in our body happen without having any reaction to them. Just observe it happening. Don't add anything to it. Don't get involve. Just "Float".

 

Thanks Balto
I guess i ‘got it’ just must practice not to interact