If I had to change one thing. Then it should be to stop feeling dependent on my separated wife. It frustrates me that I am constantly thinking about how I can win her back. She plays on my emotions. She sees another and as soon as I show my interest in getting her back, she shuts me off. When I express I want to move on with my life and ignore her. Then she suddenly gives me hope that we can meet again. I can feel I'm furious at her, but at the same time, I love her. But it's time to work on becoming independent of her. However, I do not know how to approach it. We have 3 children together, so we are forced to work together.