Hello everyone it’s nice to meet you all. I have just joined.
About me - I am a doctor with a second degree in nutrition, and I have had my own long journey of childhood trauma leading to many psychophysiologic conditions/symptoms including an eating disorder, IBS that led me to cut out almost all foods, gynaecological issues, urinary issues, mental health issues etc. I had a lot of pain in my bladder, and pelvic pain too. I have worked hard through a lot of psychotherapy to come out the other side of all of this, and I am pretty much recovered from it all. I have become interested in Gabor Mate in recent years, which led me to read about similar researchers and eventually to come across John Sarno and his work. I have read ‘the cure to back pain’ and subsequently started reading and listening to the work of similar people like Howard Schubiner, David Hanscom, Nicole Sachs, David Clarke, David Schechter, John Stracks etc.
I have joined this site mainly because I am in a relationship with a person who suffers with chronic pain, and I feel like I can see quite clearly what is going on with him but I am unsure of how to help him understand and actually embody these concepts. I also wondered whether anyone has any insight into the possibility that after a period of time with the pain, some peoples minds might become closed to actually getting to the root cause because they are so used to living their life in this way that they are scared of how it will be when the pain has gone. My own experience is difficult to compare with because I became interested in this work once I had already recovered from the majority of my symptoms. It happened gradually over time, and I can only see this as the majority of the cause now that I am able to look back a reflect.
About my boyfriend - he has suffered for many years with chronic back pain, hip pain, joint pain that he describes as feeling very stiff. He gets extremely fatigued and feels significantly worse in the morning when he wakes up. His pain goes up and down, sometimes it seems like he doesn’t even notice it, but sometimes his hands are shaking because it is so agonising. It is mainly lower right back and bum cheek on the right, but it can move around. I can also see the tension in the muscles when it flares up. He also has a lot of brain fog and can’t think clearly, especially in the morning and also after he eats. He also clenches his jaw/grinds his teeth at night so he has to wear a mouth guard. He gets very constipated too, despite eating a lot of fibre, and he now has haemorrhoids which he is waiting for surgery for. He also suffers with insomnia and also finds it very difficult to fall asleep at night. He’s had many tests done that did not show anything, MRI with a couple of slipped discs but I am guessing that is not the cause. He ended up going private (we are in the UK so was NHS before) and had lots of tests and ended up with a diagnosis of chronic lyme disease. He was put on 3 months of antibiotics which have not gotten rid of his symptoms. He takes lots of supplements and drugs, mostly mast cell stabilisers / antihistamine type drugs , as well as low dose naltrexone and some other things. These all came from the same clinic in London, who I think also attribute all of his symptoms to the lyme.
Having developed quite a strong understanding of mind body syndrome I wondered if anyone could help me understand some of the things that he is going through. He is quite reluctant to discuss these things because I think that he does not want to think about the pain because it gets him down, but also he feels a lot of the theories are conceptual and also probably don’t apply to him specifically because of how linked his pain is with food / diet. He does seem to experience this joint pain immediately after he eats, and if he takes these medications before he eats then the symptoms seem not to occur. However there do seem to be other triggers for his symptoms, like them being present in a significant way when we wakes up.
If anyone has had any similar experiences I would love to hear about them. I am a very giving person in my relationships and I do a lot for my partner to make things easier for him, but I am beginning to find it more difficult when he is not considering TMS as a possibility because I feel as though I can see exactly what is going on, and he seems blind to it which is becoming quite frustrating and I am starting to worry about our relationship.
Thank you for reading my very long post!
About me - I am a doctor with a second degree in nutrition, and I have had my own long journey of childhood trauma leading to many psychophysiologic conditions/symptoms including an eating disorder, IBS that led me to cut out almost all foods, gynaecological issues, urinary issues, mental health issues etc. I had a lot of pain in my bladder, and pelvic pain too. I have worked hard through a lot of psychotherapy to come out the other side of all of this, and I am pretty much recovered from it all. I have become interested in Gabor Mate in recent years, which led me to read about similar researchers and eventually to come across John Sarno and his work. I have read ‘the cure to back pain’ and subsequently started reading and listening to the work of similar people like Howard Schubiner, David Hanscom, Nicole Sachs, David Clarke, David Schechter, John Stracks etc.
I have joined this site mainly because I am in a relationship with a person who suffers with chronic pain, and I feel like I can see quite clearly what is going on with him but I am unsure of how to help him understand and actually embody these concepts. I also wondered whether anyone has any insight into the possibility that after a period of time with the pain, some peoples minds might become closed to actually getting to the root cause because they are so used to living their life in this way that they are scared of how it will be when the pain has gone. My own experience is difficult to compare with because I became interested in this work once I had already recovered from the majority of my symptoms. It happened gradually over time, and I can only see this as the majority of the cause now that I am able to look back a reflect.
About my boyfriend - he has suffered for many years with chronic back pain, hip pain, joint pain that he describes as feeling very stiff. He gets extremely fatigued and feels significantly worse in the morning when he wakes up. His pain goes up and down, sometimes it seems like he doesn’t even notice it, but sometimes his hands are shaking because it is so agonising. It is mainly lower right back and bum cheek on the right, but it can move around. I can also see the tension in the muscles when it flares up. He also has a lot of brain fog and can’t think clearly, especially in the morning and also after he eats. He also clenches his jaw/grinds his teeth at night so he has to wear a mouth guard. He gets very constipated too, despite eating a lot of fibre, and he now has haemorrhoids which he is waiting for surgery for. He also suffers with insomnia and also finds it very difficult to fall asleep at night. He’s had many tests done that did not show anything, MRI with a couple of slipped discs but I am guessing that is not the cause. He ended up going private (we are in the UK so was NHS before) and had lots of tests and ended up with a diagnosis of chronic lyme disease. He was put on 3 months of antibiotics which have not gotten rid of his symptoms. He takes lots of supplements and drugs, mostly mast cell stabilisers / antihistamine type drugs , as well as low dose naltrexone and some other things. These all came from the same clinic in London, who I think also attribute all of his symptoms to the lyme.
Having developed quite a strong understanding of mind body syndrome I wondered if anyone could help me understand some of the things that he is going through. He is quite reluctant to discuss these things because I think that he does not want to think about the pain because it gets him down, but also he feels a lot of the theories are conceptual and also probably don’t apply to him specifically because of how linked his pain is with food / diet. He does seem to experience this joint pain immediately after he eats, and if he takes these medications before he eats then the symptoms seem not to occur. However there do seem to be other triggers for his symptoms, like them being present in a significant way when we wakes up.
If anyone has had any similar experiences I would love to hear about them. I am a very giving person in my relationships and I do a lot for my partner to make things easier for him, but I am beginning to find it more difficult when he is not considering TMS as a possibility because I feel as though I can see exactly what is going on, and he seems blind to it which is becoming quite frustrating and I am starting to worry about our relationship.
Thank you for reading my very long post!
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