I could use some advide relating to pain in my urethra/penis

Heres a little about my story! I was in a car accident in 2015 and shortly after developed very severe neck pain that plagued me for many years. I found dr sarno and TMS back in 2017 and did alot of work. I really believed in the syndrome and constantly worked hard day in day out to rid myself of the severe neck pain that ruined my life for years. By 2019 i started to get soo much better. Than in june 2020 i was diagnosed with Chlamydia, which im sure i got from an unfaithful girlfriend. I was treated immediately in July 2020. Tests kept coming back negative but the pain in my urethra didnt go away. Im left now with a severe stinging, sharp jabbing pain that comes and goes throughout the day. It literally feels like somethings stuck inside my urethra. Its been a good 6-7 months of this to no avail. The pain can be so disturbing as its in such a vulnerable area. Because i actually did have a bacterial infection my mind is totally fixiated on the fact i did some serious irreversible damage. Apparently 50 pct of men who get this dont even have symptoms as its asymptomatic, yet i was treated and still feeling serious pain 6 months out. Im at a total loss of words and what to think about this but i just feel defeated. I finally beat the neck pain only to be replaced with this issue which is worse than the neck pain i ahd for several years. Any help or thoughts on this would be tremendously helpful to me.. Thanks

 

I'm so sorry to hear about your suffering. It sounds uncomfortable. I do think it sounds like TMS given your history with chronic pain and the fact that you were able to overcome it using TMS methods. As such you know how to approach this already, and this new symptom is no different. You did not do irreversible damage to your body, you took the appropriate medication for an infection and subsequent tests proved this was successful. Your brain is creating the pain out of alarm generated by fear which your brain is alerted to easily since the car accident. Do what you need to do to calm yourself about this whether that is accepting the symptoms are harmless by yourself or returning to the Doctor for a checkup. Once you are given the all clear, you can decide to accept the pain when it shows up, reassure yourself, and employ the successful methods you used to overcome your initial presentation of TMS.

 

Symptoms tend to tell us by their location something of the psychological constipation going on in us that is making us need a symptom. I would imagine that being cheated on is pretty rage inducing. Testicle pain and that whole area seems to be a primetime TMS area for men having sex relationship issues. Many of the young men I work with have this kind of stuff and it always seems to correspond to bad relationships....and None of them have ever had anything serious actually going on.

The next time you catch yourself fixating on it you might want to focus on that particular RAGE inducer. I have found that Sarno's recommended "turn your thoughts to a recurrent source of irritation" advice is the front line in the TMS battle.

That is actually part of the problem... the fixation. The body can heal ANYTHING. If you treated it and it's gone, it's gone... the fixation is TMS. It's there to distract you from how pissed you are.

 

This is what I am currently struggling with but because there is the possibility of genital trauma (however mild) and I am not getting much help, I do not know where to draw the line. At what point can I safely say "any injury would have healed up by this point" and start assuming it's healed and treat it as tms? (I'm three weeks into pain following mild trauma FYI, diagnosed as possible soft tissue damage. And yes, I do have emotional baggage due to a past relationship).

 

Great question!
Injuries usually heal within a 3 month window.
However, if it has been really capturing your mind and your focus, it would not hurt to read a book by Dr. Sarno - the Divided Mind is short, and gives very helpful breakdowns of folks who seem to be subseptible to TMS. His strategies can be applied now and in the future.

 

The Largest Bone in your Body heals in 6 weeks and there is only pain for the first few days. The notion of months long healing stuff was made up by the medical world when they were seeing TMS take hold of a 'traumatic' injury and the person wasn't healing as fast as they thought it should.
Then of course they stretched this to years with 'structural' things.
If you kicked me in the nads I'd be in pain...might even have some bruising, but the odds of me feeling it a couple weeks out is slim.
And YES TMS can follow swelling or create swelling. I am certain the surgery i had was just a gigantic placebo