How to rewire your brain with 'gray'...

Personally, I was impressed by much of this video's content, but particularly with what the interviewee says about, and how to deal with, perfectionism, 'all or nothing' / 'black and white' thinking, i.e. rewire your brain with 'gray' (from 14:56 to 20:35). What she says will definitely stick with me, so I thought I'd post it up in case it may gel with and help anyone else...

 

The "gray" is intensity. I loved how they talk about the fact that tms folks often approach things with a high intensity which is apart of the black and white thinking and perfectionism that most people with TMS seem to employ in one way or another.

I also really like how they talk about this in terms of managing the fear of the physical symptoms but also the emotional part of the work.

Excellent conversation! Thanks @BloodMoon !

 

Thanks!

Question to whomever is reading this:

Hearing about all these symptoms kind of makes me nervous. Like 'what if i ever get light sensitive too and i cant do any tms work anymore and i cant get better?'

How am i supposed to deal with these thoughts/fears?

 

Lol and on this topic:

The guests camera flickers a bit and that is totally freaking me out. I really wanna see the rest though. I know a little light flicker wont kill me; more tms work to be done.

 

Also i dont mean to ruin this thread with my word vomit but the stuff theyre talking about is so relatable. I’d get mad at myself for not responding the right way, thinking id never get better. Someone told me that you can just respond with fear 99 out of 100 times instead of 100 and youd be improving Its my status: ‘trying to do a little better each day’. Also the not doing black and white and trying to be black and white about not doing it were exacy the problems i was running into. Theres a certain amount of confirmation bias in these self diagnoses but tms theory has always felt incredibly close to me. So good at dissecting the parts of me completely sabotaging my own lige

 

Thoughts are what our brain's do, they aren't reality, they aren't inevitable. One of my best friends is blind, and he does the work.