This question was submitted via our Ask a TMS Therapist program. To submit your question, click here. Question Hi, I am the wife of a TMS sufferer. I cannot say how long he has been suffering with TMS, but I think he identified it about 5 years ago. I have until now not been supportive of him and his pain as I didn't understand TMS - not an excuse! He has identified many of his stressor and have worked through some of them / learn to deal with them / forgive them. Some of the stressors he has not yet been able to work through / process. Also some of his stressors (I think) he has not yet identified. I for no moment doubt that I am potentially one of those 'unresolved' stressors. That breaks my heart. I need to learn to understand his pain and need to find ways I can support him. I think this 'thing' is going to ruin our marriage if I don't start supporting him now and if he is not able to process these stresses very soon. Our biggest problem is that he is not much of a talker, so I know very little of what he is going through, which feels as if he is pushing me away. Please provide me with information on how I can help him with his TMS? (and in the process help myself and our marriage). Thanking you in advance.