I have an old friend, really a mentor from my youth who I stay in touch with over email from time to time. He's always been an inspiration, continuing an exceptionally active life into his 70s with running, triathlons, and more recently endurance cycling. He rides probably 150 miles a week, and done mountain rides all over the world. Off and on, he has suffered from sciatica and generalized low back pain. Recently he had been diagnosed with prostate cancer and got that resolved with a surgery, but with a recurrence of pain he has an orthopedic surgeon telling him his sciatica pain is due to L3-L5 impinging his spinal cord and that without surgery there he "would soon be in a wheelchair." Fortunately he is smart enough to not just take that doctor's advice and is instead seeing a Neurosurgeon for a 2nd/3rd opinion. Knowing him all these years I can see potential for TMS in his personality and lifestyle, etc. My issue is how do I broach the subject in order to help? I don't want to offend or insult but I would definitely like to keep him from having surgery if it's not necessary. He's a smart man (retired engineer) so I could see his being resistant to the whole idea of TMS. I thought about anonymously dropping one of Sarno's books in his mailbox, but even there I'm not sure which one. Anyone else ever worked through a similar situation?