Hi everyone, I was wondering how you handle situations where a scary pain trigger simply cannot be avoided. I have diagnosed myself with TMS a few weeks ago (10 years of back pain) and I am having a hard time gradually resuming physical activity. I certainly do not expect to heal overnight and I would like to give myself time to unlearn my pain. The thing is, I live alone after my longterm-relationshiop ended very badly last year and there is noone to ask if there is something I cannot do myself. I find that very frustrating! I even lived with my parents for a while and am now trying to find my way back to a normal life, looking after myself. Today my cleaning lady, whom I hired during the worst period of pain, stood me up for the third time. Apart from being angry about that I am feeling simply desperate. My appartment is messy and there are certain things which involve an amount of bending and stretching which make me really afraid, because I am still in pain most of the time. I know that there is nothing wrong with my back but I feel that I am not able to handle some of the more persistent trigger yet. It is going to hurt if I clean my floor, f.e. The only thing I can come up with is not fighting the pain. I will just try cleaning telling myself that my back is fine and that I am simply conditioned to expect pain and do as much as I can. What do you think? How do you handle a situation like this?