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How to address anger

Discussion in 'General Discussion Subforum' started by Shosh, Aug 5, 2017.

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  1. Shosh

    Shosh Peer Supporter

    I realized that the anger I've felt toward a close family member for most of my life (very deep and not always noticeable to me) is probably a huge cause of my TMS, most recently GI issues. I get so triggered by some of the things she says and does and feel such rage sometimes, which of course I try to suppress. I also feel guilty that I feel this way toward her -- like I should just grow up and move on. Of course this anger makes my symptoms worse. How do I address these emotions? Journal about my feelings toward her just when I feel them? Daily? Write her a letter I don't send? Sit in meditation and just feel the anger?
     
  2. Walt Oleksy

    Walt Oleksy Beloved Grand Eagle

    Hi, Shosh. I felt anger toward my parents for divorcing when I was seven. The anger persisted, subconsciously and repressed long into my adult years, leaving me with feelings of abandonment and insecurity, even when they got back together a year later. When back pain led me to learn about Dr. Sarno and TMS, I journaled and discovered that anger. Then I did some serious thinking about it all. That led me to put myself in their shoes and I realized they must have had their own pains from TMS. Understanding them better helped me to forgive them. I think this same process would help you to forgive the family member and your pain will go away. You could do this and write her a letter but don't send it. Feel the anger, but then forgive her and let it go.
     
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  3. Shosh

    Shosh Peer Supporter

    Thanks Walt. I have tried to forgive her and let it go for many years but it keeps hanging on. I feel like maybe I just have to accept the anger and not feel so bad about not being able to let it go?
     
  4. Walt Oleksy

    Walt Oleksy Beloved Grand Eagle

    I agree to accept the anger, then lighten up on yourself and let it go.
     
  5. Gigalos

    Gigalos Beloved Grand Eagle

  6. Shosh

    Shosh Peer Supporter

    Thank you both!
     

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