The question for Day 30 has provoked a lot of thought for me. There have been a variety of impacts. Some relationships much smoother & thriving because I am living more in the present and am able to interact from my authentic self; as opposed to being inward focused on pain. With others, the changes have been very difficult for me. I have been standing up for myself and establishing more healthy boundaries, a change which is a struggle all around. Also, I am surprised to feel grief for the unhealthy version of those relationships. I realize that some people's ability to love me is fragmented and that feels like a loss. I hope that I can stay in those relationships because they are part of my history but I know we cannot go forward together the way we were in the past. I have a good friend who is a goodist and pleaser. There seems to be a dynamic in our relationship that I never saw before. She accommodates others in her life often at my expense (in terms of time we can spend together). And it it because I have been a goodist and pleaser that I got short shrift - I was the one in the chain that had "no problem" accommodating. It is interesting that now I find this annoying! Now I see it. So now I just need to adjust how much I am willing to accommodate and gently draw the line in the sand. This will be OK I'm sure but it is interesting to see this dynamic I never even was aware of before. So as one changes, one's relationships change. This is all good but it is not necessarily easy. I wonder what you all have experienced with your important relationships as you have gone through the various stages of this program?