Hip pain - 3 years - Genuinely worried

sdiddy

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Ive posted about this in the past but decided its time to do an update. Its been about 3 years of chronic hip pain on both sides. Started to escalate around the time when me and my ex broke up. I broke up with her, it wasnt an ugly breakup, we remained friends, but Im sure it did have some impact on me, moreso not having a steady GF and regular sex in the last 3 years. Ive always placed extremely high important on a partner in my mind so I think being without one has caused me a lot of feelings of lack of self worth, lonelyness, and just pent up anxiety from other things also (no release). Before her I was on a streak of 4 straight beautiful GFs with constant sex for about 5 years and didnt have all these body issues.

3 years ago I had an MRI done. There were significant issues. osteoarthritis in both hips, labrum tears in both hips, bursitis in one hip. However, there have been times of more pain and less in the last three years. Even 5 months ago I started doing a lot of contrast therapy (hot tub and cold plunge) and my hips started to feel a lot better. So I felt good enough to try Orange Theory again and did it for 2 months, 3-4x a week, before the wheels fell off. Knees starting hurting a lot, hips were huring a lot. So I had to stop. Since then things have gotten even worse to the point where I can barely even walk two blocks or even stand for 30 minutes without pain.

Im scared. Im in constant pain. I feel handicapped. And for the first time in 30 years I dont know if this particular issue is TMS. This feels unlike the back issue I used to have, the frozen shoulder, and the random chest pains. This feels like genuine joint issues. Even picking up heavy weight with my hands causes severe pain in my hips later that day (load bearing), as if the compression on the hips from the weight is causing more pain.

There are so many things wrong here. My range of motion is 0. Hips and IT bands are completely tight beyond belief. arthritis. bursitis. etc. and then the anxiety component (dealing with lawyers and ex wife, career and financial worries, dating stress and the lack of a woman or regular sex in the last 3 years. I want SO BAD for this to be TMS but it doesnt seem to be. Ive done 6 months of PT and it did nothing but hurt me more. Ive done cortisone (temp relief) and even PRP (nothing), and now even seeing another doc who is trying to "remove the scar tissue" using soundwave machines, STIM, and other stuff. Massages buy me temporary relief also. I also have done psychotherapy every week for many years. I do constrast therapy and compression boots also.

I'm turning to you all for help. I will do anything to try. Im 47 years old and cant even walk with my daughter. I cant even sleep from the pain. I dont know what else to do. I feel like Im trying literally everything. I dont want to have surgeries. I dont even know if thats the answer. I feel all alone in my journey and through all the pain Im still doing my best to succeed in my career, be a great dad to my baby girl, and more. Its hard.
 
well do you believe in the tms diagnosis? because you're chasing all these physical treatment's, you need to give yourself a chance to buy in to the tms diagnosis.

personally i think the stakes are way too high. pressure to be there for your daughter, finding a partner etc. you to need chill a bit.

i really think someone like you would benefit from spirituality, things like buddhism or hinduism. i'm not judging you because it's expected in this life but you seem way too obsessed with sex. what's happening is you're craving external things like a relationship or sex and thinking they're going to complete you and all that's happening is you're feeling emptier and emptier once they're gone. You keep thinking the answers in the horizon when the answer needs to come from within. You need to recognize that you need to make internal shifts. if you are out of balance internally or upset with yourself no external thing is going to complete you.

You need to stop catastrophizing and stop obsessing about these symptoms. I personally think Dan Buglio has the best approach for dealing with these symptoms themselves.

and i don't mean to be a dick but you made a previous post and people gave great responses which you didn't acknowledge, it's rude not to acknowledge the time thatpeople put in to try to help you. personally i think it's another dimension to this fact that you think other people are there to serve you or add something to your life. you have internal changes that you need to work on
 
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So I know there are a lot of threads in here already, and many will cover what I am about to address so I apologize in advance for the redundancy/duplication. However, I have learned with this issue that "talking it out" will soothe the situation so I'm selfishly hoping for some relief in starting this thread.

My background:

So I'm a late 40s endurance athlete (running and cycling) that started having some significant groin/hip pain back in February of 2018 following a difficult ultra marathon. I had dealt with overuse injuries for 10+ years of my running "career" and had a pretty good...
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Sdiddy:
My TMS coach was a professional gymnast who became (amongst other things) an endurance cyclist and like you, suffered from serious hip issues for many years. She tried a lot of mind/body (but not TMS) related work, postural work - was eventually able to ride, run, ski, surf and now is a yoga instructor. She has studied under Lorimer Mosley who's work has really resonated with her but she has also studied under Dr. Schubiner and Alan Gordon. All of this work has taken her to a new level.
The first part of her true healing was shedding victim mentality. This wasn't easy because in the midst of all of her struggles, she was diagnosed with cancer (for which she has recovered). Her own path to stepping out of feeling like a victim was pain education (that is her passion) and helping others.
What is your passion outside of your sport? What are your strengths as a person?
It's really important to be able to identify the things that you might need to focus more on, and take a step back from the things that are triggering or feel like weaknesses or lack so you can do the mindset and emotional work with a little confidence (which is where I absolutely agree with @Rabscuttle ).
Perhaps focus on doing your career instead of the "best", being there for your little girl instead of worrying about what "kind" of Dad you are... and if you are super stressed about all the external stuff going on in your life, get some help.
I was bed bound for 2 years and am going through a long challenging sequence of tightness right now. Yes, it's frustrating, and I also have some external stressors that are worrying me but I am working through my emotions during this time. It's important to recognize the things that are the TRUE underscore of the physical tension: the fear, anger, lonliness, sadness, guilt/shame etc. and just sit with these things. Notice the stuff you used to use to cover these up or turn your mind from focusing on them to feel better: sport, driving the body hard, sex etc and perhaps placing your emotional world onto someone else (just a suggestion since you mention feeling better when you had a girlfriend). Perhaps some therapy will help you sort these things out and alleviate some of the mental struggling and termoil you are going through.
 
Rabscuttle said:
well do you believe in the tms diagnosis? because you're chasing all these physical treatment's, you need to give yourself a chance to buy in to the tms diagnosis.

personally i think the stakes are way too high. pressure to be there for your daughter, finding a partner etc. you to need chill a bit.

i really think someone like you would benefit from spirituality, things like buddhism or hinduism. i'm not judging you because it's expected in this life but you seem way too obsessed with sex. what's happening is you're craving external things like a relationship or sex and thinking they're going to complete you and all that's happening is you're feeling emptier and emptier once they're gone. You keep thinking the answers in the horizon when the answer needs to come from within. You need to recognize that you need to make internal shifts. if you are out of balance internally or upset with yourself no external thing is going to complete you.

You need to stop catastrophizing and stop obsessing about these symptoms. I personally think Dan Buglio has the best approach for dealing with these symptoms themselves.

and i don't mean to be a dick but you made a previous post and people gave great responses which you didn't acknowledge, it's rude not to acknowledge the time thatpeople put in to try to help you. personally i think it's another dimension to this fact that you think other people are there to serve you or add something to your life. you have internal changes that you need to work on
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i didnt realize i made another post. probably was late at night or just stressed and forgot. so i went back and responded thanks.
 
Appreciate everyones reply. Can anyone recommend any practices that might help? Im already trying to meditate, journaling, and seeing a psychotherapist, on top of all the other things I do, sauna, cold plunge, compression, massage, etc. Any advice would be great. Somethin I should read, or any workbooks?
 
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