Hip pain - 3 years - Genuinely worried

sdiddy

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Ive posted about this in the past but decided its time to do an update. Its been about 3 years of chronic hip pain on both sides. Started to escalate around the time when me and my ex broke up. I broke up with her, it wasnt an ugly breakup, we remained friends, but Im sure it did have some impact on me, moreso not having a steady GF and regular sex in the last 3 years. Ive always placed extremely high important on a partner in my mind so I think being without one has caused me a lot of feelings of lack of self worth, lonelyness, and just pent up anxiety from other things also (no release). Before her I was on a streak of 4 straight beautiful GFs with constant sex for about 5 years and didnt have all these body issues.

3 years ago I had an MRI done. There were significant issues. osteoarthritis in both hips, labrum tears in both hips, bursitis in one hip. However, there have been times of more pain and less in the last three years. Even 5 months ago I started doing a lot of contrast therapy (hot tub and cold plunge) and my hips started to feel a lot better. So I felt good enough to try Orange Theory again and did it for 2 months, 3-4x a week, before the wheels fell off. Knees starting hurting a lot, hips were huring a lot. So I had to stop. Since then things have gotten even worse to the point where I can barely even walk two blocks or even stand for 30 minutes without pain.

Im scared. Im in constant pain. I feel handicapped. And for the first time in 30 years I dont know if this particular issue is TMS. This feels unlike the back issue I used to have, the frozen shoulder, and the random chest pains. This feels like genuine joint issues. Even picking up heavy weight with my hands causes severe pain in my hips later that day (load bearing), as if the compression on the hips from the weight is causing more pain.

There are so many things wrong here. My range of motion is 0. Hips and IT bands are completely tight beyond belief. arthritis. bursitis. etc. and then the anxiety component (dealing with lawyers and ex wife, career and financial worries, dating stress and the lack of a woman or regular sex in the last 3 years. I want SO BAD for this to be TMS but it doesnt seem to be. Ive done 6 months of PT and it did nothing but hurt me more. Ive done cortisone (temp relief) and even PRP (nothing), and now even seeing another doc who is trying to "remove the scar tissue" using soundwave machines, STIM, and other stuff. Massages buy me temporary relief also. I also have done psychotherapy every week for many years. I do constrast therapy and compression boots also.

I'm turning to you all for help. I will do anything to try. Im 47 years old and cant even walk with my daughter. I cant even sleep from the pain. I dont know what else to do. I feel like Im trying literally everything. I dont want to have surgeries. I dont even know if thats the answer. I feel all alone in my journey and through all the pain Im still doing my best to succeed in my career, be a great dad to my baby girl, and more. Its hard.
 
well do you believe in the tms diagnosis? because you're chasing all these physical treatment's, you need to give yourself a chance to buy in to the tms diagnosis.

personally i think the stakes are way too high. pressure to be there for your daughter, finding a partner etc. you to need chill a bit.

i really think someone like you would benefit from spirituality, things like buddhism or hinduism. i'm not judging you because it's expected in this life but you seem way too obsessed with sex. what's happening is you're craving external things like a relationship or sex and thinking they're going to complete you and all that's happening is you're feeling emptier and emptier once they're gone. You keep thinking the answers in the horizon when the answer needs to come from within. You need to recognize that you need to make internal shifts. if you are out of balance internally or upset with yourself no external thing is going to complete you.

You need to stop catastrophizing and stop obsessing about these symptoms. I personally think Dan Buglio has the best approach for dealing with these symptoms themselves.

and i don't mean to be a dick but you made a previous post and people gave me a great responses which you didn't acknowledge it's rude not to acknowledge the time thatpeople put in to try to help you. personally i think it's another dimension to this fact that you think other people are there to serve you or add something to your life. you have internal changes that you need to work on
 
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