I realised that I often hide my emotions, in various ways. I frequently hide anger and frustration with my housemate, as often she seems to overlook basic tasks around the house such as emptying the bin, buying toilet paper, or cleaning up after herself in the kitchen. I've realised that I need to find a better way of dealing with this situation and being more assertive. Unfortunately she has health issues herself, and struggles with severe insomnia, so part of me feels like I can't really blame her. She also has a very dreamy, distractible personality - and most likely has adult ADD. (She has admitted that she and her father have many adult ADD traits, and I can attest to her distractibility! I thought I was bad until I got to know her…lol) Also, my housemate hates confrontation and lived in Africa for many years, where she learned to primarily use indirect communication styles. I feel like this is passive aggressive, yet she has explained that indirect communication (sometimes even bordering on manipulation) is common in Ethiopia, where she and her family lived for a quite a long time. Complicating that is the fact that my housemate is quite comfortable being in a messy, chaotic environment. She does go through fits and starts where she will suddenly start organising or cleaning everything in a particular area, but it seems to be more out of compulsion than any balanced routine of keeping things clean and organised. This makes life more confusing and unpredictable, but I try to bear with her and understand that this is often her way of responding to stress and tiredness. Anyway, I decided to write a "feeling letter" to express my emotions, and I realised that I had a lot of negative emotions that had more to do with my family of origin, negative experiences of bullying at school, and other issues - rather than the situation at hand. Another complicated factor is that housemate was first my friend, before becoming my housemate, and I don't want to jeopardise the friendship.