I hide my feelings towards my separated wife. She got separated in the summer just when I found Dr Sarno's work. It was a hard shock to me. but I gradually got better with my tms. Until a month later, I came to see her phone. She saw another one and had done it a few months before we were separated. At that moment, I immediately got worse. (I come from a divorce family myself. My dad was unfaithful) So it hit really hard. I became more obsessed with getting him away and her back. I start and win her back quietly. However, she had planned a trip to Scotland with him. She said to me before she left. When she returned home, she broke the connection with him. Then we should concentrate on meeting again over time. When she returned home I had some outbreaks as a result of the trip. She did so again. A few days ago she says it should not be us again. She doesn't want him either, she just needs time for herself. A few days ago, I find out she is seeing him again. The feelings of failure and anger towards her, I have held back because I do not want to ruin my chance with her. Hope there is someone who can help me with what to do. Ps we have 3 children.