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Hi Nando-
Thanks for writing in. I know that even just submitting a question can take courage.
First of all, it sounds like you are finally in the right place. It truly does sound like you have TMS. I’d encourage you to continue working your way through the SEP. Beyond that, it sounds like it would be beneficial for you to work with a TMS therapist. All of us therapists at the Pain Psychology Center work with clients over Skype, if that’s something you’re interested in. Working with a TMS therapist/coach is not 100% necessary for recovery for everyone, but for some it is more important than others. If the SEP isn’t producing the results you’d like, then I’d encourage you to reach out!
Secondly, I’m not sure what is your sticking point, so it’s hard for me to give you specific advice, but at the very least I’d recommend that you start being nicer to yourself. You say that you are not sure what you’re doing wrong – maybe you aren’t doing anything wrong at all! Maybe you just haven’t received the right information in the right way yet.
For example, you wouldn’t beat yourself up if you did poorly on a test on which you’d never been given the information to study, would you? No, I hope not! Perhaps right now what you’ve learned about TMS hasn’t hit you in the right way. Sometimes it takes a while for us to truly understand where our path is headed and the unique obstacles that we need to face.
So, as I said – start by telling yourself that you’re doing everything right, it just hasn’t sunk it in. Keep working and keep trying. Patience and persistence are always necessary.
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