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Thanks for the question. I’m sorry to hear that you’re in such great pain, but I hope that with your success in the past you know that there is reason for hope.
My first question to you is what is that happened at this time of year that is causing you to be in pain? Why has your pain shown up at the same time the past two years? You’ve probably read about conditioned response here on the wiki, but just in case, let’s review exactly how that might apply here. Was there a part of you that expected your pain to (or at least thought it might) show up at this time of year? Is there something emotional that happened to you at this time of year that is difficult to process? Both of these questions will help understand why it is that not only is the pain back, but it’s worse than ever.
Secondly, I know the pain is unbearable, but I strongly encourage you to find a way not to let it stop you. When we move forward through the pain we build confidence in ourselves and show our bodies that we’re able to do it. That confidence is huge – most TMS sufferers are regularly trying to work through their own confidence issues.
Lastly, in the moment, I know that the pain can be unbearable and it’s easier to give into it. You have three ways of growing new neural pathways at this point:
(1) Tell yourself that you’re safe. Anxiety is closely related to our pain, and anxiety arises because part of us feels unsafe. Reminding yourself that you’re safe over and over helps to calm down the unconscious part of your brain that is terrified.
(2) Get angry at the pain (this is personally my least favorite, but many find it useful). When we’re angry we’re empowered and when we’re empowered we can move forward through the pain.
(3) Laugh at the pain. This is the hardest one to do, but I have found it to be the most effective. Once you are truly able to laugh at the pain (no fake laughing), you won’t care about it and it’ll lose its power. This one takes some practice, so don’t be hard on yourself if it takes awhile
Hope that helps.
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