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Happiness

Discussion in 'General Discussion Subforum' started by gailnyc, Mar 19, 2013.

  1. gailnyc

    gailnyc Well known member

    Some of these overlap with good practices for TMS'ers.

    http://successify.net/2012/10/31/22-things-happy-people-do-differently/

    I particularly liked this:

    11. Avoid social comparison.
    Everyone works at his own pace, so why compare yourself to others? If you think you’re better than someone else, you gain an unhealthy sense of superiority. If you think someone else is better than you, you end up feeling bad about yourself. You’ll be happier if you focus on your own progress and praise others on theirs.
    It's something I need to work on myself.
     
  2. Forest

    Forest Beloved Grand Eagle

    That is a really cool list. I enjoyed

    9. Get absorbed into the present.
    Happy people don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. They savor the present. They let themselves get immersed in whatever they’re doing at the moment. Stop and smell the roses.

    One of the hardest things for a perfectionist and goodist to do it so not be consumed by either how someone reacts to something we did or about something that is coming up in the future. Being more present can really help reduce the effect the TMS personality can have on our health.
     
  3. Stella

    Stella Well known member

    Being consumed by something coming up in the future...yip

    My mind is constantly thinking ahead, anticipating every option, going over multiple scenarios, thinking of every litte detail .... my mind never stops anticipating what the future may hold. I have back up plans for my back up plans.

    Thanks Forest for pointing this out.
     

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