As I am sorting through my emotional luggage (thanks to Alan and his SEP), it occurred to me that about 10 years ago, while beating back a bad bout of depression on a backdrop of a terrible job situation and terrible family situation, I concluded that the worst thing I could do was to feel sorry for myself or cry. At that time, I pushed my tears back inside and pulled through - as I thought, quite successfully. I found a great job and a wonderful family therapist who helped me to get through divorce by taking a high road and learning a lot about my self-sufficiency and things got much better. But since then, as I noticed, I dealt with all my life problems without allowing myself to feel sorry for myself or to let out tears. Is this why TMS caught up with me in a new and frightening way? Any thoughts on whether girls-never-cry or never-feel-sorry-for-yourself is a path to TMS?