Frustrating Sexual Dysfunction

All,

I am a 26 year old man who from the age of 18 has had massive TMS. I was told at that age I had herniated discs and that it would be that way for the rest of my life. It took a big toll on me. This year I discovered Dr. Sarno. I read his Healing Back Pain twice and have been pain free ever since.

Now I have another problem. About 50% of the time it comes time to perform in the bedroom, someone just doesn't feel like cooperating. It's like the second we start initiating, I get overwhelming anxiety that I need to perform. That I need to be good, that it needs to work. Obviously this makes it impossible and I just leave, incredibly angry.

I have a big hunch that this is not physical. It seems to stem from my same subconscious that gave me the back pain. It does say that it always manifests in the way that would most hurt.

I'm extremely frustrated and have no one to turn to. Does anyone have experience with this? Can anyone help?

 

I have had almost the same experience as you except I'm 23. My back pain "sciatica" started at 18 and came on and off until it became more long-term. And, the sexual dysfunction has also been my recent experience. Fortunately, I started seeing a TMS doctor a few months ago and he says -- in my case -- that experience is purely the non-conscious mind. I would say, see a doctor to rule out any physical issues to that experience and take it from there? Tough experience but we can make it out!

 

Where did you find a TMS doctor?

 

On this website. There's a link under the Resources header to find TMS doctors/therapists it's called "Directory of TMS Practicioners". I think many of them do tele-visits.

 

Hello. I feel very alone. My partner has over recent months developed most of the classic MS symptoms and has received a conditional diagnosis of MS pending further tests by a professor of Neurology and the MRI. The most distressing of symptoms for him now, threatening to destroy our engagement is the failure to be able to ejaculate and sustain an election. It’s something he will not discuss with me, the subject is closed as he is trying to come to terms with the other symptoms and a fear of what is to come. Whether in remission that function will return, we have no idea, being new to MS. We were only engaged in January and this is wrecking everything. It’s a very difficult topic to discuss anywhere else, so any support or information would be gratefully received.

 

Hello @briankevin
You have found a forum for a mind-body condition called TMS, which has nothing to do with MS.
My personal advice for you and your fiancé is for counseling. The difficulty discussing this subject is an intimacy issue, and you probably both need support navigating this diagnoses.
Know that the idea of TMS is that internal stress: anxiety, and how a person feels about themselves, anger, fear and suppression/repression of the emotions surrounding those feelings can make existing physical symptoms worse and create physical symptoms. Your partner may be really internalizing the stress this diagnoses is creating for your future together.

Best wishes! Don’t give up!