Hi, I have an open question for the group. I am a total believer in TMS and have controlled many mind body issues using Dr Sarno’s techniques and theories. I am currently experiencing a flare up and I think my approach to internal health might be wrong. I’ve lost a few dear friends due to Covid and my back pain has flared up. When it comes to loss what do you think is healthy? I cried my friends death and I did mourn them -I thought- and also tried to not rethink things too much and continue with my life... however now that I am in pain I think that maybe I went about it too quickly? How much is healthy to mourn? I tried not to get stuck with the sad thoughts but maybe I should not have avoided the mental suffering, the loss, the tears? Should you stay with those feelings until they abate? I was trying to avoid an anxiety attack and not be ran over by emotions, maybe it is wrong and by avoiding emotional pain I created physical pain? How do you approach loss? How do you know if you have felt things and mourned in a healthy way? Am I repressing feelings and that is the culprit?