Great post and comments. I too have had a major flare this holiday season and the pressure to do everything for everyone. It seems women have major stress at this time with cooking, cleaning, shopping, baking, wrapping, decorating, and the like. Glad it's over now but my TMS has flared big time. My daughter also came back from college for the holidays and even though I love her, we don't get along at all and unfortunately, we end up fighting after a few days. She is someone who has to be right and screw your opinion. She also shuts you down anytime you try and defend yourself or may have a different viewpoint, which is extremely aggravating and raging. Since she's been here, she's reverted back to her old habits of leaving everything out and making messes. When she's gone, the house stays clean, because she's our youngest and the other kids are married. I hate feeling this way because it feels selfish and that's when TMS rears its ugly head. I do know this is TMS because I was able to paint my house with NO arm, shoulder, or rib pain, the majority of where my TMS resides, just last week, so I know it's not structural or pathological. Triggers are powerful and can elicit symptoms in an instant for me. Thanks for sharing.