Hi Im struggling a bit here and hope someone can help shed some light on this issue. I understand that you are supposed to "feel" your feelings as opposed to just thinking about them and acknowledging them. My problem is all of this TMS back pain started with grieving when my sister passed away 2 years ago. I grieved and grieved and cried and cried and journaled and talked to every human being that would listen and tried to get it all out of my system to "deal with it". I just got worse and worse. (although hypnosis did help me deal somewhat with my grief emotions) My temper is very short now due to chronic pain that moves around all over my back, legs, feet, elbow, tailbone and now knees and behind my knees. Every time I get upset, depressed, anxious, irritated by my spouse or kids my pain is triggered. Every time I cry about my emotional issues I get worse & worse pain. The more I "feel" the worse my anxiety and pain are. How do I deal with all of my repressed emotions and current life stressors that I think Im dealing with on a daily basis without getting huge attacks of anxiety and pain??? Shouldn't I be trying NOT to get upset at every little thing and talking to my brain to say Im overreacting and its not worth it to be stressed out about stupid things. I have just started the program here and am definatly having some better days....it is starting to work for me but as soon as I am faced with any conflict I can feel my blood boiling and blood pressure rising and then the whole vicious cycle starts again. I keep thinking I have to STOP that cycle...those emotions....to "shut them off" so to speak but that seems to work against the whole idea of DEALING with and FEELING my feelings. If I don't Stop the feelings then they always seems to spiral out of control...I end up crying, depressed, in pain and back on my pity party train.