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Day 6 Fears

Discussion in 'Structured Educational Program' started by LouVes, Nov 2, 2018.

  1. LouVes

    LouVes New Member

    Briefly take a few minutes and write down some of your fears. Why are you afraid of these things ?

    I remember thinking during one of the first days of the programme where you have to write down three things that make you angry and sad that what I really needed was a list for things that made me scared. It's a long list and it surprises me because I'm not normally a person who is afraid of things. Actually, I pride myself on stepping up to the plate (so TMS personality) and getting things done without blinking. I adapt well, I am confident. There's no time for fear, but since the pain started I've been reduced to a quivering lump of the stuff. This needs to be a list :

    I'm afraid of :
    • my children suffering or dying

    • my children not being happy in their lives

    • my children being sad

    • not having enough money to pay my salary (I own a private language school)

    • not having enough money to pay for my children's studies

    • not having enough money to retire and having nowhere to live when I do

    • not getting well and having to live in pain forever

    • not being able to live in pain everyday

    • the many, many reforms of this government making it impossible for me to keep the language school open and then what will I do to earn a living ?

    • My relationship failing

    • not being able to sustain a long-term relationship successfully

    • having to take medication for the pain that I really don't want to take

    • not having choices and being trapped in a situation I can't get out of
    I don't know why I'm afraid of these things. Maybe because they're just scary things and all have to do with feeling safe, which lately I don't feel anymore. There are just too many factors that are out of my control and I suppose that I feel safer when I can control events, although that's just an illusion and I know it.
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