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Dr. Hanscom's Blog Dr. Hanscom on Anger

Discussion in 'General Discussion Subforum' started by JanAtheCPA, May 1, 2023.

  1. JanAtheCPA

    JanAtheCPA Beloved Grand Eagle

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    learningmore Peer Supporter

    Is it true this can be taught? I always assumed people who got angry easily and couldn't think were wired that way.
  3. learningmore

    learningmore Peer Supporter

    On that note, I'm normally a passive person, My fight flight fawn or freeze response is usually fawn or freeze.

    With that said, I have learned two things concerning anger that I am not comfortable with:

    1) I have found when I am angry, other people actually respect me. As a codependent, I'm used to not being believed. When I make a request, people generally ignore me. During my anger, everyone does exactly what I want. I do not like that it works this way.

    2) I have found anger is a profound motivator. I do not like that this seems to be the case.

    I do not want to say my life has been improved by embracing my anger, but I feel more in control and engaging when I am angry.

    I have a history of withholding my anger, too, as anger was not allowed in my narcissist parent childhood. Especially not regarding my parents, who never believed me, really.

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