Dr. Hanscom's Blog Dr. Hanscom on Anger

From today's newsletter by David Hanscom, MD - his technique for when anger looms:
https://backincontrol.com/processing-anger-with-three-steps-5-3-2/ ("5–3–2" - Processing Anger in Three Steps - Back in Control)

Plus additional articles about anger after the short article.

 

Is it true this can be taught? I always assumed people who got angry easily and couldn't think were wired that way.

 

On that note, I'm normally a passive person, My fight flight fawn or freeze response is usually fawn or freeze.

With that said, I have learned two things concerning anger that I am not comfortable with:

1) I have found when I am angry, other people actually respect me. As a codependent, I'm used to not being believed. When I make a request, people generally ignore me. During my anger, everyone does exactly what I want. I do not like that it works this way.

2) I have found anger is a profound motivator. I do not like that this seems to be the case.

I do not want to say my life has been improved by embracing my anger, but I feel more in control and engaging when I am angry.

I have a history of withholding my anger, too, as anger was not allowed in my narcissist parent childhood. Especially not regarding my parents, who never believed me, really.