Hi everyone, I do believe in TMS. My entire adult life I've gone from one "nerve" issue to another. I won't list them. Now, they just hop around faster, so I take it I haven't 100% committed to the psychological aspect. I used to go to doctors for the issues, but I don't now. The internet is chock full of people with multiple diagnosis, wrong diagnosis, "learn to live with it" advice, and pain killer addictions. I think doctors have a huge frustration with not being able to "fix" patients, so they just give a diagnosis so the patient has a label. I've been sent on "wild goose chases" many times, even by "Natural" healers. Here's what I've come to realize: Along the path as a child, I think my brain latched on to the idea that my happiness is secondary. (with plenty of reasons) Even though, it would appear, that I've made a life for myself where my happiness could be primary, I still relinquish it to any little problem person, or issue. Then, I was thinking about "nerve" issues. The happy people in my life don't have them. They don't have TMS, either. Wondering, is this a commonality amongst those of us on this TMS board? Have you been conditioned, told, or accepted that your happiness is secondary? Or that you somehow don't deserve it? Thanks! I write this as I head to the east coast to take care of my two elderly, very self-centered, parents. I dread it, every time. The guilt, mixed with shame, and...being treated like I'm there to serve them...is making me....WOW! Enough said.