Hello all, I have read Dr Sarnos books and have been lurking on this forum for a week. I believe I have TMS but I have been trying to figure out if I trully do. My backstory: First off I've been to multiple Drs and had CT scan and ultrasounds. Everything came back normal. In September of 2014 I had double hernia surgery. My wife and I were trying to conceive. I didn't want to have kids and it was a very contentious thing between us but I have the best wife and said I'd do it.During that time we had intercourses many times. Sometimes I couldn't finish. One time I felt a pain in my testicle and a few days later thehernia appeared. I had the surgery and everything went well. BTW she got pregnant but had a miscarriage soon there after. In mid January while having intercourse and trying again for a baby I didn't finish. I was still having thoughts of not wanting a child. Right afterwards I got pain in my right testicle. I also have pain right above the testiclenext to the penis. The pain also radiates down my right inner thigh and under the testicles. I thought it was just a coincidence. After couple weeks still in pain I went to see my surgeon. He checked and said no hernia. The pain kept getting worse. I then went to urologist. He checked everything and did pain shots. No relief. Then I went to pain specialist. They did multiple injections. It actually got worse. I tried everything. Last week while searching for help I came across Dr Sarno and testicle pain. I remembered buying his book two years ago. I still had it in my kindle unread. I started reading it. Two years ago I had really bad neck and back pain. I went to Drs chiropractors and even had multiple injections and nothing cured it. I thought it came on from working out. I finnaly saw a roffling expert and the pain went away. But then my shoulder starting to really hurt. I bring this because I believe it was actually my first bout with TMS. So I started to read Dr Sarnos book last Saturday. I felt better in Sunday I actually went to the pool and swaw and worked out. Still in pain but very manageable. I worked out the last three days in the pool and was doing ok. Still pain but much less. Last night we had intercourse and the pain came back strong today ( in the past after ejaculation the pain has always been really bad) My questions are. 1. Does this sound like TMS? 2. The Drs believe it's the ilioinguinal nerve coming from T1. Is that normal for TMS. 3. I've been doing the 12 steps. My question is when I talk to my subconscious should it be out load or just in my head. 4. I have a really hard time not thinking about the pain. Any tricks? 5. Could not wanting a child be the emotion that is causing all this anger? I'm sorry for such a long rant but it's been 7 months of hell.