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Day 8 - Breaking the pain cycle

Discussion in 'Structured Educational Program' started by Flute Girl, Nov 4, 2018.

  1. Flute Girl

    Flute Girl New Member

    I have facial nerve pain and have been struggling for 7.5 years. I am convinced that my brain is stuck in pain mode. I am doing well in reading about TMS, writing and meditating. For the first time in years I am feeling hopeful that I can pull out of my nasty pain cycle. No consistent relief thus far, but mentally I am feeling better.

    I got terribly angry at my husband this week because of how he reacted to a decision I made. I did scream out my frustration, but I also turned to my writing. I scribbled out four full pages of anger, swearing, and ranting. It was truly a miracle. I really felt so much better afterwards. The next morning the anger towards my husband had subsided. I haven’t kept obsessing over what was said and what he did. I just moved on. For the first time I really experienced how helpful writing can be to get out your emotions. Despite being very stressed and angry, I did not flare. I am hoping for a great week of controlled pain!
     
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  2. Andy Bayliss

    Andy Bayliss TMS Coach & Beloved Grand Eagle

    Hi Flute Girl,

    I am excited for you to experience such direct success with your writing. Fully, safely expressed anger is a huge healing for most folks, and I hope your post can be an inspiration for others.

    Anger is "tarnished" with all the childhood messages about being wrong or bad. Plus, we tend to be people-pleasers, we TMSers, and being angry, we're afraid, makes us unlovable. Yet anger can give us clarity, strength, and clear boundaries --both inner and outer. It is these qualities which begin to work within our personalities to lessen inner tension. Again, congratulations Flute Girl!

    Andy B
     
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