Question to ponder .... what are my fears? Gotta few minutes? A few hours? Probably my first and foremost fear is death - probably because I have no control over it and for me, it's all about control. And what can you do with that? After death, my next greatest fear is is growing old and becoming infirm, incontinent and the like. I've been responsible for my parents since 2003. Mind you, they lived in an assisted living facility and then moved to various higher level of care facilities, but I was in charge of them both (health and financial and the like). My dad died in 2010 at 93 and my mom just turned 93 end of January and she is living in an assisted living facility about 5 minutes from my house. The last few years of my dad's life was what I would call ugly. He eventually resided (I wouldn't say "lived") in a locked down Alzheimer's facility. Became incontinent and antagonistic and it was just so sad to see. My mom has had her share of "growing old issues", too, although her general health is good. I've been entrenched in it because of my aspect of their care. Though my mom is only 5 minutes away, I generally see her 1 day per week on Sunday, so I can make my "dutiful" call to my brother in Florida and they can chat. Sometimes I have to go an additional day, be it medication delivery or whatever. But, I'm at the point where it's pretty emotional visiting her and seeing all of these old folks and their condition. Beyond these two fears, there is general health fears for me (I can easily let this one run amok), my husband, my two adult sons and also my sons being able to take care of themselves financially (we subsidize one son). I think these are my greatest fears, but because of ongoing anxiety, generally anything can spiral out of control fairly easily, despite consciously knowing my thinking is completely distorted, frustrating be that it may.