A doctor once told me that he had patients who cannot have sex at all, that their body would go into spasm and that some patients never got better. He told me the pain was something I could very well have for the rest of my life. that was really hard to hear because not only did at the time this pain take a lot of joy out of every day activities yoga, watching tv, sex etc. but now there is a chance I could never get better? Never enjoy sex again or maybe never have it. Of course my mind went a million places... how will I live my life this way? who will want to date me? how can I be happy with all of this? All of that kinda stuff. But that was not the most disheartening thing. The most disheartening thing was that I thought I had to deal with all these horrible things and all I wanted to know to know was why do I deserve this... what even causes vulvodynia? But every time I asked a doctor what causes vulvodynia? they would all give me the same disheartening reply "we don't know" Needless to say I am so glad I found this approach and the TMS community.