When I became pregnant in 2001 I visited a doctor and told him about my pain, he told me I had fibromyalgia an to return after my son was born. I mostly had pain in my back. While I was pregnant I prepared and read all kinds of books. When my son was born I was financially stable and could stay at home with him ( I was a single mother by choice). I became exhausted and my son would not sleep through the night for whole six years. My sleep was interrupted for good, before my son was born I slept well, and I became chronically exhausted and my pain expanded. In his first years I managed to participate in a lot of activities with him but in the last three years I actually stopped and became more isolated. My son is now 11 years old and is very independent but I feel guilty because I realize now he became too independent too early. He does like it but I know he needs more direction. I became very stressed and he became more defiant, he has ADHD, and things can get out of hands. The stress with my son worries me and makes me more sick. I have been reading some of Gabor Maté books about ADHD and bonding and he gives very good advice. I am trying even though it is difficult because I am also trying to get out of this exhaustion, depression and pain, but I am hanging in there.