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Day 3 - Good news : )

Discussion in 'Support Subforum' started by Free of Fear, Sep 2, 2018.

  1. Free of Fear

    Free of Fear Well known member

    Hi everyone, I just wanted to post some good news here. I'm not sure why things have finally shifted for me, as I've known of Sarno et. al.'s ideas about TMS for a long time, but this is day 3 of my *really* believing that there's nothing wrong with my back. It's like everything has fallen into place, and all of the fears I had before have calmed down. I'm still in pain but it somehow doesn't feel the same; I no longer think, "Oh it's my bad back!" I think, "Yeah it makes sense I still have pain, all the neural pathways are built, etc. This is okay. I can be in pain and still have a good back." I'm not even thinking of myself as having a pain problem. Instead I say to myself, "I have an anxiety problem, and my back got caught up in it." I'm repeating that to myself a lot now. "This isn't a back problem, this is an anxiety problem." For whatever reason, that's the key that fits my lock.

    Part of getting here was doing a ton of reading and educating, reading articles and success stories again and again, chipping away at the years of programming I received that I had a bad back. I started saying to myself, "If it's working for all these people, why would I be any different?" It's like I was thinking I was special somehow, just in a bad way. Realizing that I'm basically like everyone else here was huge.

    Yesterday I went on a 10-minute walk with my girlfriend. Today I went on a 10-minute hike through two small hills. This is the longest I've walked in over five months. My back feels a bit funky, maybe going to flare up a bit tonight, but it really doesn't matter to me, because I no longer think it's about my back, I think it's about my brain. And if it does flare up, I'm ready to meet it as an opportunity to build a new relationship to the fear. (See this amazing 15-minute talk from Claire Weekes, which says this last bit so well.)

    The trip is, I see now, NO ONE could have convinced me of this, or convinced me to just start thinking this way. Something had to shift inside, and it shifted very very quickly, like a tipping point. So, it's day 3 of my believing in my body again, but only after five months of lying around the house, educating myself, battling with my thoughts, etc. It's like all the hard work has paid off, and even though there are challenges ahead (I'm sure), I feel like I've made it over the most important hill.

    Here's one more thing I did that I think has really helped. Twice now I've seen a body worker who specializes in trauma. I don't have obvious childhood trauma, but I do believe that this whole ordeal (losing my job, losing control, being terrified of losing my independence, etc.) has been in some way traumatizing. This was confirmed to me when I met the body worker the first time - when she started laying her hands on me my body started to shake, and I wound up going through a trauma release. (Kind of like this guy.) The next 48 hours I felt so safe, safe in a way I hadn't felt since this ordeal began. Then I started feeling unsafe again, and I realized how generally unsafe and in danger I've felt these past five months. Anyway, I had the second session last Wednesday, and then I have this huge shift on Thursday, believing in my body again. Writing about it now, I really do think it was important. (I acknowledge how fortunate I am to be able to pay out-of-pocket for these sessions.)

    I look forward to continuing to walk this journey with you all.
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  2. Rosebud

    Rosebud Peer Supporter

    Wow, that video was very powerful!
  3. westb

    westb Well known member

    Such good news, and thank you for sharing it. As you say, something has to shift inside for us to start to heal. And thank you too for the link to the Claire Weekes' talk. What hit home to me is when she says (I paraphrase) that our symptoms/sensitisation actually feed off the fear we have of them. So simple and of course I've heard it before from different sources around this forum but it really resonated with me today.
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  4. Jules

    Jules Well known member

    So glad you shifted your way of thinking. I have been doing the same thing, for probably the fifth time since learning about TMS. For me, it’s hard to erase 20 years of negative thinking and processing and releasing so many years of trauma that started when I was a baby. (Father fell from a scaffold 40 feet up and nearly died, when I was 3 months old) My therapist said I have acculumated PTSD from so many traumatic experiences that it would take a long time to heal, since actually feeling the memories and letting them go tend to make pain worse before it becomes better. Boy, do I know that, since TMS has fought me with this work for over 5 years now!

    This summer, I have done more than I’ve done in 20 years and boy does it feel good. Even though I’ve still had pain, I have told the pain to f*** off and did it anyway. Last week, I hiked 400 feet, which is a huge accomplishment, and just kept telling myself there was nothing wrong with me and that I’m safe and in no danger. the next day, remarkably, NO pain!! It does work; it just takes time.

    We CAN do this!!!;)
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  5. Free of Fear

    Free of Fear Well known member

    Jules, that's great! Thank you for your reply. Looking forward to hearing how your recovery goes : )
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  6. BloodMoon

    BloodMoon Beloved Grand Eagle

    Hi Free of Fear,
    Fantastic progress! Wonderful :) :)
    I'm curious is your body worker a TRE therapist?
    This kind of release reminds me of what Peter Levine talks about in his book 'Waking the Tiger' https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger...55643233X/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8 - He points out that some animals bodies naturally shake violently after emotional trauma in order to release it from their bodies.
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  7. Free of Fear

    Free of Fear Well known member

    Thank you!

    The person is trained in Somatic Experiencing, which is Peter Levine's program actually. I shook a little again the second time, but nowhere near as much. I'll be interested to see what happens this week!

    I did TRE in the past, and liked it, but then the shaking in my pelvis started causing my lower back to spasm, so I had to stop.
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  8. BloodMoon

    BloodMoon Beloved Grand Eagle

    Ah, that it explains it :). (I saw that I got the title of Levine's book wrong, but I've corrected it now.) Anyway, I'm really pleased for you. It's great to read of such good progress - it gives much needed encouragement for us all.

    I'm not surprised that with TRE you had to stop; I looked at doing it a few years ago and thought that I'd end up bedridden if I tried it. (My muscles are prone to spasming and then setting like concrete and have made me bedridden for months on end in the past...Hopefully, though, with the mind/body work I'm doing, all that will eventually change.)

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