I am on 29. I wrote a letter to my ex, who hurt me very much. He was incredibly selfish and had addiction issues. I also had to forgive myself for staying in a relationship that 6 months in, I knew there were some things that upset me. And when i mentioned it, he said he would work on it, but never did. That is when I should have left, but I didn't. I wasn't ready. I also let my mother and my father know, their selfishness had hurt me. Then I forgave them all. And said, this is who God wanted me to work with to better understand myself. And tried to focus on the spiritual angle. And forgive myself for causing myself so much shame, and emotional abuse and neglect and thinking about these relationships as they consumed me. I learned much about co-dendency, alcoholism, drug addiction and antisocial personalities, and tried to just apply logic and forgiveness to separate. As a friend once said, I don't regret the men I have loved, I just regret the time I spent thinking about them.