I honestly don't know where it comes from. Is it a habit I learned through society/family? Is it a distraction? Perfectionism? Is it an addiction to a natural release of oxytocin? Anyone have any ideas where theirs came from? This is the most stumped I've been since I started the SEP, not like I really care, but it's interesting regardless. Edit (7 minutes later), figured it out lol I personally think all of those things I mentioned above are partial culprits, but the fact that I wanted/want people to like/love me is a big part of it. I believe that I would get rewarded with love and respect if I did things right in my life, but if I did something wrong or nothing at all I wasn't shown love. Lack of unconditional love I suppose. So my unconscious strategy was to help others so that I could get rewarded with love, which isn't bad thing, but I suppose it would've been nice to be told that I was loved no matter what. As my therapist has said before: parents are only human, they don't come with instructions on being a parent.