MicheleRenee
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hahha yayyy i told myself... the day that i get over my fear of this (doesnt matter if it goes away) will be the best day of my life so far. when i can get over my fear of this life doesnt seem so fearful after all!
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New Program Day 20: Embracing Joy
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Alan Gordon LCSW
TMS Therapist
That's great to hear! When you do find yourself feeling this sensation, just attend to it. You don't have to hold on to it, but by attending to it when it's there, you familiarize yourself with this sensation.
The more we practice this, the more familiar it becomes. And our brains naturally gravitates toward the familiar.
Nice! You didn't just feel joy, but you focused your attention on the physical sensation of joy. This is how we develop new neural pathways.
James59
Well known member
As I watched the baby GIF it helped me smile and feel a sense of joy, but my body still felt like it was being squeezed in a vise.
FWIW, looking back on my life the times I felt safest were not necessarily those when I felt the most joy, but rather the times I felt the most loved regardless of how difficult things were.
FWIW, looking back on my life the times I felt safest were not necessarily those when I felt the most joy, but rather the times I felt the most loved regardless of how difficult things were.
birdsetfree
Well known member
After being severely disabled by lower back pain for 15 years and having tried so many treatments I was ready to accept that this was my lot in life. I came to the dark realisation that there was no 'out' and I had to find a way to live like this without being sad all the time around my family. I was ready to go through the grieving of my true self which could not exist in the status quo.
One night after a long prayer asking for a way to authentically accept a life disabled and in pain until I died, I came across tms therapy. What unfolded in the coming months was such a miracle to me. One of the first questions to my therapist was "Is this a cure?" Her answer was 'Absolutely!". "How can this be?" I would ask myself over and over. The impact of those words from my therapist will stay with me forever. True joy that I let live at the forefront of my mind every single day. The contrast in the ensuing hopeful emotions threw me on a new pathway of recovery. This has been the single most important factor in my profound healing by giving me the enthusiasm and empowerment to mindfully take on each day as a newly discovered adventure.
I am finding my true self once again but I am much stronger and more centred. I realise that the only ceiling that we have is the one we put on ourselves. I wake up every day and smile
I am so grateful to this community of caring, intelligent, empathetic people.
One night after a long prayer asking for a way to authentically accept a life disabled and in pain until I died, I came across tms therapy. What unfolded in the coming months was such a miracle to me. One of the first questions to my therapist was "Is this a cure?" Her answer was 'Absolutely!". "How can this be?" I would ask myself over and over. The impact of those words from my therapist will stay with me forever. True joy that I let live at the forefront of my mind every single day. The contrast in the ensuing hopeful emotions threw me on a new pathway of recovery. This has been the single most important factor in my profound healing by giving me the enthusiasm and empowerment to mindfully take on each day as a newly discovered adventure.
I am finding my true self once again but I am much stronger and more centred. I realise that the only ceiling that we have is the one we put on ourselves. I wake up every day and smile
I am so grateful to this community of caring, intelligent, empathetic people.
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FindingJoy
New Member
So, the exercise made me cry! Not a bad cry, but more a moment of intense joy followed by a happy cry. I tear up a lot during sweet things (movies, school/sport events for my kids, touching stories on NPR) so not totally unexpected but it still surprised me.
Alan Gordon LCSW
TMS Therapist
That makes sense. Just because we experience joy, it doesn't mean that our brains are going to instantly feel safe. It can take time and practice and get to that point where we're able to embrace a sense of safety, and release that tension in our bodies.
To your second point, joy is just one of the feeling states that we can gravitate toward. Love is another one, so is gratitude. The important thing is to find something positive to gravitate toward so that we're not solely running from the negative.
Bodhigirl
Well known member
This is just perfect.
All through this past three weeks I have been listening to a recording my supervisor gave me nearly 30 years ago of Thich Nhat Hanh's first week-long workshop for integrating Buddhist principles with psychotherapy. In his talk, he speaks of breathing and smiling.
He told a story about how after the horrible battle at Hue, in VietNam, when a ceasefire was broken and hundreds of bodies lay in the streets, the young monks in his monastery were told to go into the city to help load bodies on to trucks. Their instruction was to do this service while practicing the meditation of "In, I am breathing in. Breathing out, I smile."
He taught us: If we could do that while loading bodies on to trucks, amidst terrible devastation, then surely in southern California you can teach your clients to breathe and smile. You can breathe and smile. ...and in this present moment find joy.
I have synchronistically been breathing and smiling instead of pendulating when one of my pain pitstops pipes up and wants attention. Then, came today's exercise and I do feel joy.
I am so very grateful to John Sarno, Alan and Drs. Schubiner, Schecter, Levine, Siegel and others who have taught me something, given me tools to add to my toolbox and to everyone who has been sharing their challenges and stories with such courage and vulnerability.
I am changing my mind. I can see the difference in me - my observer is clearer than before - I was hesitant to do this series of exercises, a bit scared of kicking up old pain that might want to go a few more rounds and the biggest thrill is in arriving at a kind of acceptance of TMS: As It Is.
Miracle: I swam 100 laps today without pain. No burst of pain afterwards, so fear of pain.
I was afraid that the feelings that would arrive if there wasn't any pain would then overwhelm me but they haven't.
I think I am trusting this process ever so much more deeply than before.
That's cause for joy. ...you know, Joy was my mom's name. That woman loved me like a rock.
Sweet dreams, you all.
All through this past three weeks I have been listening to a recording my supervisor gave me nearly 30 years ago of Thich Nhat Hanh's first week-long workshop for integrating Buddhist principles with psychotherapy. In his talk, he speaks of breathing and smiling.
He told a story about how after the horrible battle at Hue, in VietNam, when a ceasefire was broken and hundreds of bodies lay in the streets, the young monks in his monastery were told to go into the city to help load bodies on to trucks. Their instruction was to do this service while practicing the meditation of "In, I am breathing in. Breathing out, I smile."
He taught us: If we could do that while loading bodies on to trucks, amidst terrible devastation, then surely in southern California you can teach your clients to breathe and smile. You can breathe and smile. ...and in this present moment find joy.
I have synchronistically been breathing and smiling instead of pendulating when one of my pain pitstops pipes up and wants attention. Then, came today's exercise and I do feel joy.
I am so very grateful to John Sarno, Alan and Drs. Schubiner, Schecter, Levine, Siegel and others who have taught me something, given me tools to add to my toolbox and to everyone who has been sharing their challenges and stories with such courage and vulnerability.
I am changing my mind. I can see the difference in me - my observer is clearer than before - I was hesitant to do this series of exercises, a bit scared of kicking up old pain that might want to go a few more rounds and the biggest thrill is in arriving at a kind of acceptance of TMS: As It Is.
Miracle: I swam 100 laps today without pain. No burst of pain afterwards, so fear of pain.
I was afraid that the feelings that would arrive if there wasn't any pain would then overwhelm me but they haven't.
I think I am trusting this process ever so much more deeply than before.
That's cause for joy. ...you know, Joy was my mom's name. That woman loved me like a rock.
Sweet dreams, you all.
I appreciated the story of the monks. I decided if they could do that, I could try it on my first "battle" of the day which is getting everyone out the door. I think I view too many things as battles when they are really opportunities to find joy, love or gratitude. Thanks for your message.
I have a video of my grandson and daughter that I play over and over again. He is about a year old and my daughter is making goofy faces and noises to him. He laughs hysterically over and over again....even before she makes the funny face, he is anticipating it. When I watch it I get a huge grin and feel great.....that's what it is all about!!! Thanks Alan. I hope we will all continue to check in and encourage each other as time goes on. Wonderful group and great support!!
Penny2007
formerly Pain2007
I feel happy and then I immediately feel sad and want to cry. I don't know why. Maybe because it makes me realize how much joy in my life I'm missing.
Lainey
Well known member
Thank you Plum for the good wishes. May you too have abundant joy and freeing moments of dance and a GLORIOUS recovery.The wonders of the universe never cease...
A horrid day yesterday (family bullshit) meant I was mid-way between a blue funk and a flat out bad mood when I woke this morning. For the first time in 5 months I decided to dance, hipbelts, pretty bracelets, sweet Egyptian classical music...it was heavenly.
I remembered all the reasons I adored belly dance before making the gargantuan error of going professional. Such madness. Every ounce of joy-juice flat-lined. It all went horribly wrong, I didn't dance for years and TMS beveled back into my life.
What a tough lesson in how not to do things. So I totally relate to that experience.
Joy.
Pleasure.
Hedonism.
Yes. Yes. Yes.
And regarding the smile experiment?
That last paragraph was a beauty for the girl who needed a lift (such an authentic smile). All the moves and the licks
Here's to being brilliant and joyful (though brilliance may be rare as sunshine. Some one has stolen Summer. It's more like Autumn here).
I'm now going to play Led Zeppelin's "Kashmir" LOUD and drink wine. Here's to everyone making a goddam wild and glorious recovery and living an epically authentic, joyful life.
Lainey
Ellen
Beloved Grand Eagle
My experience trying out the Julia Roberts smile:
It felt like a bizarre, scary, grimace (think of the Joker in Batman movies). Clearly I need more practice.
I taught myself at a young age to smile with my mouth closed because my teeth aren't perfect. I am going to have to unlearn this. I think of all the dopamine and serotonin I've missed out on....
It felt like a bizarre, scary, grimace (think of the Joker in Batman movies). Clearly I need more practice.
I taught myself at a young age to smile with my mouth closed because my teeth aren't perfect. I am going to have to unlearn this. I think of all the dopamine and serotonin I've missed out on....
Lainey
Well known member
OF course its "normal" Happy tears, sad tears, all are normal.
Ellen
Beloved Grand Eagle
Beautiful post. Thanks for the reminder of what a truly miraculous phenomenon TMS healing is. It's easy to get caught up in the daily work of it, and forget the joy of true progress and recovery. All done with the power of the mind.....After being severely disabled by lower back pain for 15 years and having tried so many treatments I was ready to accept that this was my lot in life. I came to the dark realisation that there was no 'out' and I had to find a way to live like this without being sad all the time around my family. I was ready to go through the grieving of my true self which could not exist in the status quo.
One night after a long prayer asking for a way to authentically accept a life disabled and in pain until I died, I came across tms therapy. What unfolded in the coming months was such a miracle to me. One of the first questions to my therapist was "Is this a cure?" Her answer was 'Absolutely!". "How can this be?" I would ask myself over and over. The impact of those words from my therapist will stay with me forever. True joy that I let live at the forefront of my mind every single day. The contrast in the ensuing hopeful emotions threw me on a new pathway of recovery. This has been the single most important factor in my profound healing by giving me the enthusiasm and empowerment to mindfully take on each day as a newly discovered adventure.
I am finding my true self once again but I am much stronger and more centred. I realise that the only ceiling that we have is the one we put on ourselves. I wake up every day and smile
I am so grateful to this community of caring, intelligent, empathetic people.
Exactly. I understand this. I believe we have a joy deficit and I think, perhaps, we need a lot more joy than average.
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I really enjoyed this thread, "Ah, is this not happiness" I tried that making scrambled eggs this morning-such pretty shades of yellow and all the bubbles on top! Ah, is this not happiness! Now, I have to go to the dentist today. Having some trouble with the happiness thing there.
Lainey
Well known member
Ahhh, the poor, beleaguered dentists. Share some of your joy and change his/her day.