I recently noticed one of my defence mechanism and attention seeking strategies at the same time that is deeply rooted in the language I use in everyday communication. Even when I joke about things. The overreaction to being excluded out of things, by accident. It was pointed out to me by a friend who also has TMS. The therapist mentioned as well things like justifying other people's behaviour. I did that a lot as a kid whenever my mum left me waiting after school, and it happened every time. Making me feel unimportant to her and every day I would go through 1001 reasons why she could have been late. "Forgetting" about it all the second she showed up and made me happy by giving me attention for a few moments. I also justified the lack of attention by saying to myself: you are an over needy child, no wonder they don't want to spoil you even more, you would become impossible. Nowadays it is hard for my brain to distinguish when there is an actual reason for someone to be late or me using this strategy so I don't feel abandoned. Also, whenever I feel needy, I feel bad, like a child that shouldn't be like this. Well that's the way I am. Needy and insecure.