I am having a hard time determining what CURRENT stress factors are contributing to my pain. I have the personality traits of being hard on myself, being a perfectionist, people pleaser, low self esteem, so I know those play a factor to my pain. Also I had some childhood stress factors but what else could be contributing to my pain.. I am running out of ideas. My pain began right after having my daughter, so I am digging my brain for information as to why it occurred during a time which should be one of the happiest times (enjoying a new baby girl and all) of my life but instead I was plagued with chronic pelvic pain. My pain does not increase unless I sit or lay down so I don't really understand the meaning of "recognizing your triggers". I literally went from one day having no pain to the next day having pain; I try to analyze this all the time but I just don't comprehend how this can happen literally overnight. I question my brain and ask, why would you do this me? We are supposed to work together, not against each other! Then I get mad at it when I get frustrated. Since starting the program, the only person that I have talked about my condition and TMS is my husband and my pelvic pain forum. I feel the most comfortable with my husband to talk about pain in a private area (rectal, butt cheeks, sacrum and thighs, arms). I don't feel comfortable speaking to anyone about it since it involves a private area; it would be more acceptable to openly discuss if it were my knee, back, neck etc. I have talked to my co-workers about TMS though and how stress (unconscious) can cause our body pain.