My 43 y/o husband has been dealing with chronic pain in his knees for about 2 years, and in his elbows for about 1 year. Both knees have had injuries in the past and he was treated at the time of the injuries, but as of now the doctors can't find anything seriously wrong with them. He's been diagnosed with tendinitis in both elbows. Every day he lives with the fear of re-injuring or aggravating his joints, and avoids walking, climbing stairs, typing, lifting and other simple things (he "can't" even open a jar for me). He also has quit all the sports that he used to enjoy on a daily or weekly basis (skiing, biking, hiking). He is in pain all the time and because of it, sometimes suffers from depression. We've been to 2 nationally regarded orthopaedic surgeons, a rhuematologist and a naturopathic doctor. He's tried 2 chiropractors (one with a neurology degree), acupuncture, massage, and has been in and out of physical therapy. Nothing seems to make him better, regardless of the fact that he hasn't been diagnosed with anything serious. After reading "The Mindbody Prescription" this week, I am convinced he has TMS. The onset of his pain aligns almost perfectly with several pressure-causing events we've/he's been through in the past 2 years. The last time he hit bottom with the depression (about 3 months ago), I told him I wanted him to see a psychotherapist. He was reluctant but said if the depression came back bad again, he would consider it (he has never seen one before). This past weekend he hit bottom again but is starting to come out of it a little bit. I haven't brought up psychotherapy again, or that I read Dr. Sarno's book. I'd like to bring it up and suggest that he read the book, but I'm scared that he will write it off. My opinion is, what does he have to lose?? But I know that as a patient you have to be open to the possibility that your mind is causing the pain, and I don't know if my husband is capable of buying into that or not. He certainly has a history of ignoring/suppressing feelings. Does anyone have any experience with getting a loved one to consider that they may have TMS? Any advice on how to convince them that this is real and they need to give it a chance? What if they reject the idea? Thanks for your ideas!