So I am almost done with the SEP and I am still having trouble connecting my personality traits to current stresses. I have trouble identifying how my personality plays into TMS, period. For Day 34 I am asked to journal about my personality traits and how they make me handle certain stresses in my life. For example, a huge stress in my life right now is paying off my student loans. My inner child is feeling very, very, very resistant to the idea and I find myself trying to ignore that they are there, waiting, gathering interest. I want them to just go away. I want someone to come along to pay them off. I want to win the lottery. I know it's not a very mature way of looking at this, but I am trying, guys. I am terrified about how they are going to limit my life in the coming years. I feel like I will be a slave to them as long as they exist (and they are likely to exist for a long time), and the limited freedom scares me and enrages me. I have so many other things I want to do, like travel and be creative and find my entrepreneurial spirit. I want to know how I can take responsibility for them and how I can begin to take control of the situation. And how do TMS personality traits fit in here? I can see how Dependency does - that one is pretty clear. I haven't fully taken responsibility for going to grad school in the first place, so that is producing stress as well. I am blaming other circumstances for my choosing to go. Help?