As Plum says above self soothing is a key tool I have used through the worst of it. Also it may be helpful to recognise any conditioning you may be experiencing and whether you are bargaining with the pain instead of expecting it to be there. The latter is more helpful as this is where acceptance lies, and then go ahead knowing you have the tools to deal with the pain. The tools are self soothing, somatic tracking, breathing mindfully etc. Find the ones that work for you. Repressed emotions will cause pain too so this is where reflecting on relationship issues and personal boundaries, self care and self love comes into play. Remember pressure is the direct route to TMS symptoms. So yes this is a lot of information to absorb and I think it is great that there is so much we can do to help ourselves through this to a cure. It is not that the ideas are split or that there are conflicting treatments, but that there are many tools to use to quieten down the fear of the pain, and eventually the pain itself.