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Discussion in 'Support Subforum' started by Huckleberry, Dec 25, 2016.

  1. Zerkon

    Zerkon New Member

    Thank you
     
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  2. Zerkon

    Zerkon New Member

    Thank you
     
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  3. Tennis Tom

    Tennis Tom Beloved Grand Eagle

    Thanks for the thanks, and you're welcome, welcome.welcomeawelcomea
     
  4. Walt Oleksy (RIP 2021)

    Walt Oleksy (RIP 2021) Beloved Grand Eagle

    Hi, Huckleberry et al. I agree with you all that Christmas can be a physically and emotionally hard time. I think that means looking back into previous Chistmasses
    to see what emotions are being repressed.f

    And know that you are all not alone. You might like to read my book, Christmas with the Famous in which 150 famous people past and present recall their most memorable Christmas. Most of them were poor and struggling for one reason or another. The book is available from amazon.com -- Walter Oleksy. Christmas has passed, but the book is inspirational any time.

    Happy New Year everyone!
     
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  5. Lavender

    Lavender Well known member

    I gave up on my TMS therapist as I was literally getting nowhere though he did say I needed to 'get a hold on my anxiety'. I now see a NHS psychologist who agrees with Sarno and has also stated the anxiety can and does present with tension and pain as well as with panic attacks etc. (I don't have those thank goodness). I firmly believe this is my case as my anxiety gradually increased more and more following an incident with a chiropractor and my tension increased with it and it has now become a habit which is really bad on waking up in the morning.
    I have had all the usual investigations including MRI and full body scans and all are normal and NAD so I do not have a structural issue. I have decided to just listen daily to Claire Weekes and talks by Tara Brach as they really resonate with me and as I have said before 'trust in the process of life'

    Warmest wishes for 2017 and the future.[/QUOTE]

    What does "NHS" stand for? Unable to research it.
     
  6. RichieRich

    RichieRich Well known member

    What does "NHS" stand for? Unable to research it.[/QUOTE]

    NHS is the National Health Service which is the taxpayer healthcare system in the UK. We call it Medicare.
     
  7. Lavender

    Lavender Well known member

    Thanks, I thought perhaps it was a method used.
    I must have done something wrong when responding to your post two stories above. Somehow yours was next to my name. I have not seen a therapist yet but am considering doing so since nothing has budged.
     
  8. JanAtheCPA

    JanAtheCPA Beloved Grand Eagle

    Go back to Dr. Sarno's very first example (in the Divided Mind, my first book) which is blushing. Think about it. Blushing - it's a REAL physical reaction (blood is actively suffusing the blood vessels in your cheeks) which occurs entirely as the result of an emotional trigger (shame or embarrassment).

    You would never say that blushing is "in your head", would you? It's a reaction to something emotional, yes, but the response is physically right there in your cheeks.

    Get this, and you will start making the 180-degree mind-shift that is needed to do this work: Your brain is in charge of all physiological responses - and it will use that ability for all kinds of reasons, many of them having to do with its primitive perception that you are constantly in danger from a dangerous world. This worked okay in the primitive world to keep us alive long enough to breed the next generation, but doesn't work so well in today's modern world.
     
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  9. Andy Bayliss

    Andy Bayliss TMS Coach & Beloved Grand Eagle

  10. Abbo

    Abbo Well known member

    Hi Jan,

    I was really interested in your post about BLUSHING. I suffer blushing either of my face of legs on waking in the morning and I have identified it as FEAR. I also have it occasionally in the evening when an anxious thought creeps in.

    I will dig out 'The Divded Mind' and study it more.

    Thank you.
     
  11. karinabrown

    karinabrown Well known member

    Huckleberry said:
    Yes, I think if my MRI had been totally clear then I would have found it far easier to accept the TMS diagnosis"


    Now that is really interesting: for me it did not bring anything : had an MRI of my back and my foot
    when they tried the give me a diagnosis for my extreme footpain at the time : the all came back clear
    and the time I bursted out in tears : just wanted "something" to be found..strangly but true
    then afterwards..when seeing other specialist , one short remark of one of them " well a clear MRI does
    not mean a whole lot, stuff gets overlooked all the time' ..."and : a neuroma is hardly ever seen on a MRI.." djeee that made be scared again..
    after that one said : well an MRI is not the way : you need a ct scan.. (did not have one) and so on..doubted for months
    if i should heave tried to get that one too. than the x-rays and the ultrasounds..
    now I really think it was a waste of time..if they did found something I would have scared if nothing was fixable
    and now they didn't i had so many doubts.. if they missed ' something.. etc etc
    it is so easy to get completetely nuts about this stuff and believe me i have been , and at times still do..
    maybe it is typical for a tms-er to keep go over this again and again ?
    greetings
    karina
     
  12. Saoirse

    Saoirse Peer Supporter

    So funny I just bought his app for anxiety which has the full book "At Last at Life" free. iTs so good and you would know he suffered like us a well worth investment.
     
  13. Zerkon

    Zerkon New Member

    I realized today that our bodies are imperfect, and we should embrace that we will eventually die. If you zoom in to something, of course you will eventually find something wrong. It is a trade-off and it is about how you want to live your perfectly imperfect life. I easily jump to conclusions and come to the most extremely negative diagnosis of myself, rather than embrace the unknown, take things slowly, and have patience.

    I have been to the ER multiple times, and my EKG is always fine, though of course it could be inaccurate, and my chest pains could be serious. My blood and urine are all pretty normal, nothing serious. I have gotten an MRI of my brain because of weird feelings in my head, and it was also fine, but maybe they missed something.

    I know that my chest and brain only hurt when I’m stressed. And when someone told me they had throat cancer, immediately my throat started closing up and I felt a lump, and I got it checked and I don’t have asthma or sleep apnea. My knees started hurting when I was very stressed.

    My testicles started getting very sensitive 4 months ago, after my friend told me he was gay and that I was too, so we should hook up. My OCD made me think I was gay, and I started testing myself by watching gay porn, and would only get hard to around 1/20 videos, but I still convinced myself I disliked women, though I immediately get hard thinking about them. I have such low trust of myself, how am I supposed to trust others, doctors, therapists, TMS, etc – but I am working on it.

    My testicles have been sore ever since, I have seen 3 urologists and a Chinese herbalist, all gave me different reasons. One said I have epididymitis, one said I just have pain, one said it was a varicocele, one said it was from stress. Of course, not knowing makes things a lot worse for me. I had no infections, Advil and hot baths didn’t work, antibiotics didn’t work, and the first ultrasound showed nothing wrong. But, my OCD made me doubt the results, and I looked up proper procedures for scrotal ultrasounds – apparently best practice is to be standing up, and I wasn’t – so I went back to another urologist and showed him a bump I have that no one had found before, and he said I should get another ultrasound and that it is probably an enlarged vein (varicocele), which can cause infertility.

    I freaked out about that, immediately thinking all my tests are wrong – maybe I have a brain tumor, heart disease, and so on and so forth, maybe I will never be a father – and my blood pressure at the doctor’s office skyrocketed, as usual; at home, my BP is normal. The next day, my testicles hurt a lot more than usual. So, really, we should embrace that we are not perfect, and then maybe we can be less extreme in our thinking too.
     
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  14. JanAtheCPA

    JanAtheCPA Beloved Grand Eagle

    I couldn't have put it better myself, Zerkon.

    There is No Such Thing as physical perfection, especially when it comes to the human body. We start deviating the moment we become more than a few cells. Just look at aging skin as an obvious example - there are SO many benign skin anomalies: lesions, growths, rashes, discolorations, etc - there are many more of those than there are malignant or damaging ones.

    I have no doubt that if you did a deep enough scan of anyone's brain, that the same thing would be true - that there would be many strange little anomalies or lesions present, but they are not causing any problems. Just like all those MRIs which show spinal abnormalities, that Dr. Sarno eventually concluded were so often not the cause of any back pain.

    The longer we live, thanks to modern medicine (and modern sanitation!) the more this becomes true. But living longer comes with a price. When life was short, our responsibilities were minimal: survive long enough to breed. The price of living our long lives is the stress of having to come up with a sophisticated plan for long-term survival.

    TMS originally evolved as a survival technique - a way to keep our attention focused on present danger rather than wallowing in emotional turmoil. But in a world in which (for most of us) there is no longer any physical threat to our daily survival, our primitive brains and the TMS mechanism are completely out of whack, thanks to the constant and long-term stress of modern life, and now we're suffering from an epidemic of TMS symptoms.

    Welcome to 2017.
     
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