TheJoker3131
Peer Supporter
Here’s some quotes from a book called at last a life. it’s about anxiety and panic recovery but also talks about pain
“When a thought enters your head, the moment a negative
emotion is attached to it and you are probably having that
sickly feeling in the pit of your stomach, you need to get rid of
this emotion and adopt a ‘whatever’, ‘as if’ attitude to your
thoughts. It takes time and effort, but the rewards are huge
and if you can recreate this new emotion - a ‘don’t care’
emotion - then you will be able to dismiss the thoughts as
utter rubbish and they will diminish. At the moment, the fear
you feel for the thoughts is what is keeping them coming.
Once the fear has gone they will have no hold over you
whatsoever”
“ but this is what keeps us ill - impatience. We search
around thinking there must be something out there, something we
have missed. “Just choose one road to follow and stick to it. It stops all that searching around in your mind for an answer, tiring your mind even
further and putting you under more stress, when this is the last thing
you need.”
“100% and just do as you say. Smile at them if you wish. Say 'yes, as
if' it’s just my anxiety finding an escape route. I had such thoughts
and just paid them no respect. In time, without the fuel of fear, my
anxiety levels dropped and became weaker and weaker.”
“It's not about forcing yourself to accept it every second of
every day, it’s about your attitude towards it. I admit, these
past three days, there have been times when I have felt
absolutely HORRIBLE, but I kept saying to myself “do it
anyway. Talk to your room mates. Go to dinner with a
friend. Get your work done at work. What has anxiety done
to me so far? It hasn't killed me”
“if I do TRY to feel better then it is actually causing me to care
about how I am feeling, which causes the worry and
obsessing habit to return. I think I am on track with something here. It’s that basic need to be in control that
holds us back.”
“Don’t “try” to let it go, don’t force it away and
don’t try to make yourself feel better. Don’t try to talk yourself
down but invite every bit of it in. Live it, experience it, realise
that it’s all a part of what you are going through. Don’t fear it.
You WILL NOT collapse and die. So what if you look a bit
weird in front of people? This is you now (just for now and that’s okay) getting better and you will soon be back to your
old self. Remove the fear and you remove the problem”
“Why do I feel like this? Why am I not getting better? Will this
ever go away? What if I do this, that and the other – will it help? I
never gave myself a break from the subject and made the mistake of
trying to fight and think my way better. This has the same effect as
hitting a broken leg with a hammer, it will never recover.
“just living my life and not
living it trying to rid myself of anxiety each day, I felt the old me
returning and I began to feel more normal. My day consisted of
something else other than being immersing in how I felt. My mind
had been given a break and had something else to concentrate on.”
“When you learn to accept this and give it as little attention as
possible, you may find it eases as your head muscles relax. I always tell
people not to try to do anything about it. Symptoms hate to be
ignored and this applies to them all.”
“To release yourself from fear, you have
to become present to the experience of fear itself rather than simply
trying to get rid of it or running away
“She had finally got it. It was the fighting, trying to control the anxiety
that made her sink deeper into the condition
The one thing I learnt is that you have to
lose the need to be in control. At one time, if I did not feel right then I
felt I had to fix it, but I eventually learned to go with the ‘craziness. your attitude towards it, you need to reach a stage where it no longer matters”
“My mind is a little tired at the
moment, there is nothing I can do about it and worrying about it “does not help. Anyway, it will not be there when I recover”
“accepting feeling strange means not trying
to work out why you feel like you do, not trying to get rid of these
feelings and not running away from them. It’s about being prepared”
“bad today, when you felt so good last
week. It is not important so just accept these days as part of your
recovery.”
“what happens when you decide to just get on with your day and not
add more worry and fear to how you are feeling, it is the letting go
that calms the nerves”
“Don’t try to stop feelings of panic
coming – just let the adrenalin come without fighting or pushing it
away. Don’t try to stop scary thoughts coming”
“Worry just brings stress, and it was one of the first things I stopped doing when I was on the road to recovery. I knew it was just counter productive and it would do me no good at all. The less I worried, the easier it became”.
“I have now realised that I don’t have to analyse the hell out of this”. Never has a truer word been spoken.”
“Once I had practiced the whole ‘whatever’ attitude it came naturally”
“Personally, I just gave up the daily battle and stopped putting all this
pressure to feel better on myself, fighting my way through each day.
I now realise how all this just increased my feelings of anxiety and
added to the way I felt. I was not giving my mind and body one
minute’s rest.”
“ we’re anxious because
we’re anxious. Do you know what I mean? All the “Oh God, I hate
this, I just want it to go away. When will this ever end?” This is what
keeps your nerves tense; you are not giving them chance to calm
down. It does not matter whether you feel anxious or not, your
nerves will have a chance to rest as long as you don’t fall into this
trap.”
“It's time to put your fear aside, and allow your mind/body to find its
own natural balance. It will do so when and only when you begin to
step out of your own way. This will happen. Trust your body by
stepping back and allowing the natural process of rejuvenation to
occur. Without worry, the fuel for continued distress is removed”
“When a thought enters your head, the moment a negative
emotion is attached to it and you are probably having that
sickly feeling in the pit of your stomach, you need to get rid of
this emotion and adopt a ‘whatever’, ‘as if’ attitude to your
thoughts. It takes time and effort, but the rewards are huge
and if you can recreate this new emotion - a ‘don’t care’
emotion - then you will be able to dismiss the thoughts as
utter rubbish and they will diminish. At the moment, the fear
you feel for the thoughts is what is keeping them coming.
Once the fear has gone they will have no hold over you
whatsoever”
“ but this is what keeps us ill - impatience. We search
around thinking there must be something out there, something we
have missed. “Just choose one road to follow and stick to it. It stops all that searching around in your mind for an answer, tiring your mind even
further and putting you under more stress, when this is the last thing
you need.”
“100% and just do as you say. Smile at them if you wish. Say 'yes, as
if' it’s just my anxiety finding an escape route. I had such thoughts
and just paid them no respect. In time, without the fuel of fear, my
anxiety levels dropped and became weaker and weaker.”
“It's not about forcing yourself to accept it every second of
every day, it’s about your attitude towards it. I admit, these
past three days, there have been times when I have felt
absolutely HORRIBLE, but I kept saying to myself “do it
anyway. Talk to your room mates. Go to dinner with a
friend. Get your work done at work. What has anxiety done
to me so far? It hasn't killed me”
“if I do TRY to feel better then it is actually causing me to care
about how I am feeling, which causes the worry and
obsessing habit to return. I think I am on track with something here. It’s that basic need to be in control that
holds us back.”
“Don’t “try” to let it go, don’t force it away and
don’t try to make yourself feel better. Don’t try to talk yourself
down but invite every bit of it in. Live it, experience it, realise
that it’s all a part of what you are going through. Don’t fear it.
You WILL NOT collapse and die. So what if you look a bit
weird in front of people? This is you now (just for now and that’s okay) getting better and you will soon be back to your
old self. Remove the fear and you remove the problem”
“Why do I feel like this? Why am I not getting better? Will this
ever go away? What if I do this, that and the other – will it help? I
never gave myself a break from the subject and made the mistake of
trying to fight and think my way better. This has the same effect as
hitting a broken leg with a hammer, it will never recover.
“just living my life and not
living it trying to rid myself of anxiety each day, I felt the old me
returning and I began to feel more normal. My day consisted of
something else other than being immersing in how I felt. My mind
had been given a break and had something else to concentrate on.”
“When you learn to accept this and give it as little attention as
possible, you may find it eases as your head muscles relax. I always tell
people not to try to do anything about it. Symptoms hate to be
ignored and this applies to them all.”
“To release yourself from fear, you have
to become present to the experience of fear itself rather than simply
trying to get rid of it or running away
“She had finally got it. It was the fighting, trying to control the anxiety
that made her sink deeper into the condition
The one thing I learnt is that you have to
lose the need to be in control. At one time, if I did not feel right then I
felt I had to fix it, but I eventually learned to go with the ‘craziness. your attitude towards it, you need to reach a stage where it no longer matters”
“My mind is a little tired at the
moment, there is nothing I can do about it and worrying about it “does not help. Anyway, it will not be there when I recover”
“accepting feeling strange means not trying
to work out why you feel like you do, not trying to get rid of these
feelings and not running away from them. It’s about being prepared”
“bad today, when you felt so good last
week. It is not important so just accept these days as part of your
recovery.”
“what happens when you decide to just get on with your day and not
add more worry and fear to how you are feeling, it is the letting go
that calms the nerves”
“Don’t try to stop feelings of panic
coming – just let the adrenalin come without fighting or pushing it
away. Don’t try to stop scary thoughts coming”
“Worry just brings stress, and it was one of the first things I stopped doing when I was on the road to recovery. I knew it was just counter productive and it would do me no good at all. The less I worried, the easier it became”.
“I have now realised that I don’t have to analyse the hell out of this”. Never has a truer word been spoken.”
“Once I had practiced the whole ‘whatever’ attitude it came naturally”
“Personally, I just gave up the daily battle and stopped putting all this
pressure to feel better on myself, fighting my way through each day.
I now realise how all this just increased my feelings of anxiety and
added to the way I felt. I was not giving my mind and body one
minute’s rest.”
“ we’re anxious because
we’re anxious. Do you know what I mean? All the “Oh God, I hate
this, I just want it to go away. When will this ever end?” This is what
keeps your nerves tense; you are not giving them chance to calm
down. It does not matter whether you feel anxious or not, your
nerves will have a chance to rest as long as you don’t fall into this
trap.”
“It's time to put your fear aside, and allow your mind/body to find its
own natural balance. It will do so when and only when you begin to
step out of your own way. This will happen. Trust your body by
stepping back and allowing the natural process of rejuvenation to
occur. Without worry, the fuel for continued distress is removed”
