The gift of this thread is the unintentional insight it gives us into TMS. Symptoms don't come out of the blue but rather build slowly within us until a tipping point is reached. We need to become very good at spotting (feeling) when our internal state is ramping up. Essentially the art of healing involves an ever-greater attunement to this psycho-physio-neurological process in the body and how thoughts ramp this. Basically your TMS is a sign that your thinking is on the gas pedal. Here is a great TMS Red Flag: watch for when your inner dialogue becomes self-referential (I'm sick and tired of this, what about me, why is it always me that has to...resentment, irritability and annoyance typically accompany this) and you start complaining to other people about your lot in life/situation. These are signs that your brain is becoming stressed and is gearing up for the fight/flight response. TMS adores this environment and will come out to play. Get good at observing yourself on this slippery slope and get really good at not sliding in the first place. @James59 A great piece of advice courtesy of Rick Hanson is to consider what qualities and attributes you need to nurture in order to navigate hard times. I'm a swimmer with a great love of a post-swim jacuzzi and I realised one day that if my body was capable of feeling strong, supple and sublime after those two gorgeous hours in the pool it was capable of feeling it more often. I anchor to that relaxed state and desire making it a baseline way of being and so I am currently evolving ways of creating this. Whatever the cause of shock or stress in our lives we have to find ways of being so centred and sure that it can't wreck us. As far as my own TMS issues go I find it essential to work with my body first, my mind after, so I hit the pool where others may hit the road, the gym, the pitch or court. Only then am I grounded sufficiently to fully enter into the wise emotional practices such as meditation and contemplation. You sound like a fellow empath and as such it is important that we routinely let go of the various things we absorb over time. That's a whole conversation in itself. @JanAtheCPA hey, go easy on yourself. I think you're doing a brilliant job of moderating and I'm sure Forest will agree. I've been involved in two threads in the past that ended up being deleted and I remember well the volatile emotions that surrounded them for many people here. I respect the fact that you acted to prevent this from happening and in so doing you have protected people from unnecessary upset. That's never a bad thing. Personally I found @phillyjoe's comment funny and I appreciated @sam908's musing on the benefits of stoicism not the least because my Dad is the quintessential stoic and I love his earthy practicality to bits. Balto made a great point about perspective which his personal experience rendered poignant. In the end though I appreciate that Jan is keeping this tight for good reason and in that healing spirit I salute her.