I'm just finishing my third week in the SEP, and still feel confused about anger. Until I was 28 and had my first child, I was more or less numb, and a peace maker. I really thought I didn't have any anger. Then from 28 to about 44, I was always angry, mainly at my family. One day I finally realized it was really hurting me and everyone else, and began to do some serious work on it, in terms of beliefs and expectations, recognizing when my needs weren't being met, etc. Slowly after several years of work it drained away, I learned better how to get my own needs me, my kids were happy and my husband came home instead of being a workaholic. So of course I believed I had dealt with my anger, and now I am wondering if I just turned it inward instead of outward. Like now I punish my body instead of my family. But it is confusing trying to poke around finding anger when I already had so much, and (hopefully) learned what to do with it. On the other hand, I am reasonably sure I still have lots of buried grief, sadness, despair etc from childhood issues that I have never processed. Sometimes I read that this can be the problem, but it seems like 95% of what I am reading says it's always buried anger, and people just don't know they have it. So my question is, do I keep trying to find anger or focus more on other emotions or what?